By Shirley Genga
Sex is still a taboo subject and not many couples have the guts to talk about their sexual handicaps. Aren’t you just taking advantage of people’s curiosity to have them pay for you to tell them what they already know? Also, don’t you risk turning them into promiscuous women?
During my seven years as a sexologist, I have met a number of women who are not shy about sex. However, to the majority sex is an extremely private affair and anything withsexual undertones is embarrassing. I know so many women who will not touch or put on a thong.
On the other hand, men being visual creatures, desire that their wives don sexy lingerie to bed to reignite their passion.
I was also surprised that couples still have sex in the dark, under bed covers and with their eyes tightly closed. Meanwhile, both of them, but mostly men, get side kicks to fulfill their fantasies. I teach you how to be happy at home so you do not have to go looking elsewhere.
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Such lessons used to be taught during circumcision and just before marriage. Now the society frowns on such traditions. We should discard the negative aspects and embrace the good.
Acquired skill
I intend to provoke a hot debate in our bedrooms. I realised through the couple’s sessions I conduct that most married people have no clue what their spouses want in bed.
Women need to learn how to be comfortable and sexually confident. Becoming a one-stop shop for your man is a skill that must be learnt. I know that it does not come automatically.
Additionally, I also target older people who after many years of marriage often find sex stale and monotonous and do not know how to spice things up. I offer tips on lovemaking and seduction on my new DVD.
A lot of people do not know that financial insecurity is the biggest cause of low libido and that a woman can go off sex for a very long time due to this.
Hygiene is the first step to being sexually attracive, and these are the simple things I teach people