Here are signs that you have a low self esteem...

1. You don't like your own company and so you get into flings or relationships no matter how bad just so that you don't be alone

2. You love playing the victim because it attracts people's pity and attention

3. You try and keep people in your life by giving goodies such as sex or money, and feel used when those people leave you

4. You are highly insecure. You quarrel your man if he delays to pick up your call, if he dares to reply later than one minute, if he engages females; you always feel under threat

5. You feel no one is on your side. You suspect everyone

6. You are timid but lie to yourself that you're just being humble. No lady, there is a difference between humility and being timid

7. You run away from responsibilities and leadership even when you have been educated, financed and empowered to play the role

8. You are a dreamer with big dreams yet do nothing about them because you feel success is not for you but for the other ladies

9. You are awfully jealous of other women's success

10. You glorify those who have made it while you settle for average

11. You don't like how you look. So you bleach yourself, you turn up the filters on your selfies so that you appear lighter, you dress down, you are unhealthily conscious about your body. You don't consider yourself beautiful

12. You are too hard on yourself. You struggle to forgive yourself. According to you, you are the scum of the earth, the worst sinner ever

13. You throw away opportunities because you feel you don't deserve them

14. You define yourself by your money and so you intimidate others

15. You push away those who genuinely try to love you. You isolate yourself

16. You are scared of commitment

Lady, how did you develop a low self esteem? No child is born looking down on self, a low self esteem is a reaction to circumstances.

Did you grow up feeling rejected? Did your father abandon you? Did your mother call you good for nothing? Did your teacher tell you that you will never amount to much? Did your siblings make you feel like the black sheep of the family? Did your friends label you ugly, fat, a loser, dark girl? Did the man who broke your virginity make you feel worthless? Were you sexually molested or raped? Did you abort? Did you date a man who made fun of you? Did you fall into sin and got into to a huge mess? Did your friends betray you? Were you involved in an accident? Did you fail in your exams? Did you drop out of school/University or get a divorce and thus feel like a failure? Did you develop acne or spots on your skin? Are you H.I.V positive? Did you get an unwanted pregnancy and the man ditched you? Were you beaten and insulted like an animal? Do you lack money and reduced to a beggar? What happened?

Lady, why are you beaten yourself down? Your past doesn't determine your future. Your current state doesn't mean you will forever be down.

With a low self esteem you will never win. A low self esteem will lead you into bad decisions. You will push away a good man you feel you don't deserve and settle for toxic relationships. You will run away from God. You will frequent the wrong places. You will struggle to enjoy life. You will develop ulcers and stress. You will age quicker than you should. You will be a dull wife and mother that your family will find unpleasant. You will make excuses. You will drown in addictions. You will watch as your life passes you by. You will refuse to pursue your dreams and settle for mediocre jobs. You will be unhappy. You will die tired, unfulfilled and sad.

Change!

1. Forgive those who wronged you. Unforgiveness ways you down

2. Forgive yourself. Stop weighing yourself down

3. Get right with God. Let your identity come from God who created you, not mere human beings and the society

4. Embrace your body; your height, complexion, boob size, butt size, stretchmarks, hair and any body marks you have. You are beautiful

5. Stop being hard on yourself as you look at your age and feel you haven't achieved much. It's never too late

6. Be responsible with sex. Abusing sex will kill your esteem and make you feel empty

7. Cut off toxic relationships. Yes, even those girlfriends who offer nothing but gossip, booze and negativity

8. Bless other people, especially those who can't pay you back. The more you help others, the more you will feel good about yourself

9. Push yourself. Commit to leadership roles. Take responsibilities. Stop hiding your potential

10. Stop procrastinating. Act on your dreams

11. Don't take failure too seriously. If you fall, get back up

12. Appreciate yourself. Pat yourself on the back for the good you have done no matter how small

13. Speak positively about yourself. Stop calling yourself a failure, average, cursed, you never do anything right. Start calling out your greatness, declare you are favoured and destined for exploits. As Akello says, words have creative power

14. Start making time to do things that you love, that way you will feel fulfilled

15. Take photos of yourself. Love yourself. Celebrate your looks. Keep a record of your personal biography. Take yourself seriously for once. You are a big deal ????