Is the man you are dating just going through a hard time and is temporarily strapped for cash or is he a male gold digger? Beware ladies; men are increasingly gold-digging!
A friend of mine recently forwarded me some screenshots of a text conversation between another mutual friend of ours and her new boyfriend where he was shamelessly asking for cash.
It was painfully obvious he was a financial opportunist who was only out for her cash, but she must have been blinded by love and infatuation because she had already sent him several thousand before she sought the advice of my friend on whether she was being taken for a ride.
A lot of women are being taken advantage of by losers who only want them for their money. On account of wanting to feel loved, they ignore the glaring red flags indicating that these men are only interested in their money. If you see these signs in your relationship, run!
He pays for things at first then slowly stops.
The male gold digger is crafty. He’ll be a total gentleman when you first meet. He will pretend to have his own money (probably borrowed from someone) and will pay for dinners and taxis. He will go all-out to impress you and win you over. Once you have fallen for him, he will do a sudden 180.
He will start asking you to pick up the tab for dinner and eventually, start asking you for ‘loans’. He will probably give you a sob story about business not doing too well or his cash being tied up somewhere. You will believe him because he had demonstrated he was doing well financially.
Before you know it, it is one year later and you have him on a monthly stipend and you are the only one picking up the tabs when you go out.
He experiences constant emergencies.
For my friend above, it started when he got robbed and needed a small loan to tide him over until pay day. A few days later, he got sick and needed a loan to get some expensive medications. When the end of the month came by, he sent her a text saying that he had just received horrible news that their salaries would be delayed by a couple of days so he needed yet another loan.
And it went on and on and the amounts being borrowed became higher and higher. This dude just kept running into emergencies! FYI, it is not an emergency if it keeps coming up too often. Nobody suffers from that much misfortune
He “borrows” money but never repays you.
Needless to say, our friend never got even a cent back from all those ‘loans’ she gave him. If your boyfriend constantly asks to ‘borrow’ money from you and he and he never pays back or talks about paying you back, he is using you big time! He sees you as a cash machine, not as a love interest. He doesn’t even feel an ounce of shame when asking you for money.
A genuine man would be embarrassed to have to ask a woman for money and would pay her back ASAP. A gold digger on the other hand will borrow freely and won’t make any effort to pay you back.
