I have always been a bit of a player, but I recently met a girl I would love to settle down with. Her friends have been warning her about me and she seems to be taking their advice. She is no longer interested in me and I am really worried. How do I win her love? Dan.
Dear Dan,
It is good that you have finally zeroed in on someone you want to be exclusive with. I understand her hesitance given your adventurous past. You need to be straight with her about your past and make it clear that you are not that person anymore.
Tell her that she is special and prove it with every opportunity you get. Make her feel like she is not just another one of your conquests. Go that extra mile to prove to her that she is the only girl in your life.
If she agrees to date you, take things slow. Don’t try and rush her into intimacy. She might feel like you just want to get into her pants then make a run for it. If you do get intimate, let it be on her terms.
Just concentrate on wooing her and she will tell you when she is ready. Next, you need to let all your previous casual partners know that you are off the market. Cut all communication with them. Earning her trust will take time and commitment.
You won’t achieve that if you are still hanging out with your previous lovers even if it is just on a platonic level. Do your best to become a man that she would want to be with on a long-term basis.
