I am literally in limbo right now and have no clue what I'm
doing in life. Adulting is hard.
Growing up, we all had this best kind of life all planned
out. We wanted to graduate at the age of 22, get our first job at 23....at
least for my friends and me, that was our dream. Travel the world and get
married at the age of 30. Marriage was a great deal for us—a typical African
man will date to marry, not for fun.
That was not the case, though; life has a way of dragging
you behind. I'm turning 28 in a few months’ time and have barely achieved any
of those. Everyone my age and younger look like they are doing things that I am
yet to achieve. Even if it’s as simple as a house, car, or buying an apartment.
Sometimes you start your dream job, and you are all excited
about it, but one day you just wake up and be like 'damn do I have to go to
work today?' And you just feel like you are in the wrong profession and need to
change careers, but many people don't have the opportunity to do that and end
up being miserable for the rest of their working life.
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Lose, grief, finances, self-image; they can all be so hard
on you sometimes. Life just throws some things at you, but it takes time and
self-reflection to learn and grow from these experiences. But we all need to
learn from all these challenges and actively take steps to get better.
If you have been through this rollercoaster, I just want to
let you know that life is not a race, move at your own pace. It actually takes
time for anything to materialise.
You will always have that up and down motion, but just know
that you have to go through that in order to grow personally as well as to
change perspectives.
In addition, all the people who may get stuff before you may
already have the sorts of people who have helped them move forward. However,
when the good stuff comes in for you, you will have a better handle of it than
people who were there before you. They will even be asking your feedback or
input because you will make it all seem easy.
As per races and comparing yourself with others, I know that
it's hard, but we all need to run our own races no matter how hard it can be.
Being yourself and continuing in your journey will serve you well. Also, when
you feel stuck as per inspiration in terms of how to progress, go out there and
see how others do things, and access what business opportunities are out there.
Sometimes outside your environment is where you easily access the contacts
which you didn't have before. By gaining different perspectives and making new
plans, you will bring in something fresh. And as my mother always says, if you
plan your actions for progressing, have plan a, b and c to get to the place you
want to be.
Always remember that with great power comes great
responsibility, and not everyone you have around or comes to you has the right
foundation /value. Some are out there to find an easy way out by using you and
destroy you if they are not doing well, so they wouldn't want you to be
successful. You don't want people blocking your blessings. Also, continue to
keep a clear mindset, help people who deserve it, and remove the people who
bring you negativity.
Have a wonderful Wednesday.