It took just 87 days for a city pastor to disavow his marriage and send his young, pregnant wife packing.
Apostle Kenneth Kiarie, 30, of God’s Covenant Holiness Church in Mihang’o, Kayole in Nairobi, told The Nairobian that he hurriedly married Marion Wagitu, 23, “because being a pastor, I needed a wife officially married in church.”
The two fell in love when Marion attended his church in June last year and the pastor saw in Marion a ‘humble rural girl.’
Two months later, Kiarie visited her parents in Murang’a to ask for her hand in marriage. By December, the pastor had requested for a wedding. It was granted and they were wedded in April this year.
Pastor Kiarie is said to have borrowed money to finance their wedding which has now left him in debt.
But now, the pastor is being accused of throwing out his newly wedded wife for what are suspected as plans to marry another woman.
Even before the honeymoon was over, their marriage hit the rocks sometime in July, with both parties pointing accusing fingers at each other.
“He used to tell me that if I left, I would not get a husband, and that he had scores of beautiful girls hanging around him,” says Marion, who has since been allegedly thrown out of the marital home and is now back at her Murang’a village.
Marion says he married Kiarie because he is a pastor, but their marriage has been a bumpy one, with Kiarie allegedly blaming her for the declining congregation numbers and tithe amounts in his church, because of her odd behaviours in and out of the church.
“He blames me over a Sh70,000 debt he incurred to fund the wedding. He claimed I threw hot tea and stove at him and attempted to beat him in front of his parents,” says Marion, adding that the man of God often left her with Sh5 for cooking oil on grounds that she was a villager.
Kiarie swore in the name of God that the accusations were false. He instead accuses Marion of destroying their marriage through her weird behaviour, offensive words, attempt to assault him in front of friends and blood relations and accusing him of infidelity.
“Actually, that was the third time I chased her and it has now been successful. She wanted to control me but that is not African. I said we rather separate than have one of us dead,” he explains.
Marion felt offended that Kiarie rarely funded her salon makeover sessions, while Kiarie says that, “She even said I never bought her underwear. I don’t consider her sober and I want her sanity checked. I believe nobody can stay with her unless she changes.”
The short-lived marriage has been the talk of the village in Gaturi, Murang’a County and in Kayole. Kiarie says events that followed the wedding left him broke and unable to cater for her and their unborn baby.
“I did not want to send her away. I have never assaulted her, but being a pastor, everybody thinks I am the problem. A wife means a lot to a man, but Marion is not worth living with. She will harm me,” claims Kiarie.
While Marion claims the pastor was pressurised by his parents and siblings to dump her, Kiarie says she was spoilt by her parents who failed to reach out to the other side and mend differences.
The four months between meeting and their wedding, they both admit, was too brief to know each other well. “We had not shared a house or bed before we wedded,” says Kiarie.
Gabriel Chege, Marion’s father, says he overlooked Kikuyu traditions by allowing the wedding to take place before Kiarie had paid bride price, and now his family has been left in an embarrassing situation.
Chege says Kiarie and his parents have to send an emissary of elders to resolve the matter instead of maligning her name.
