Why a lady is single until the day a man puts a ring on her finger

I decided to take a leaf out of men’s book and started dating around. As far as I am concerned, I am single until the day a man puts a ring on my finger.

I have dated a few men since then and some of them might even regard themselves as my boyfriends but I consider myself a free agent and continue to accept dates from other men that I fancy.

To be quite honest with you, I have never been happier! Non-monogamy is liberating. Being loyal to only one man, especially in the springtime of your life is a colossal waste of time.

I currently have four guys actively courting me. Don’t get me wrong. I am not cheating; none of them can access the cookie jar because I am basically vetting them.

They all know that they are not the only ones I am involved with and somehow this makes me all the more attractive and they are so much more nicer and kinder to me.

Maybe it is because they know I have other options and can drop them at any moment and, therefore, they need to go above and beyond to prove themselves to me if they want to keep me around.

Speaking of which, my tolerance for BS from the menfolk has lowered a great deal since I embraced this new outlook in life.

It is so much easier to kick a man to the curb when he is not acting right when you know you have a few others waiting in the wings.

God knows what I had to put up with when I was only being loyal to one guy. And he knew he could get away with a lot of bad behaviour because I had nowhere else to turn to.

Nowadays I don’t need to overlook even the smallest offenses. If a guy isn’t treating me right, I simply move on to the next one in line.

I don’t have to put up with poor communication, cheapness and abuse. Dating multiple men at the same time gives me the power to evaluate the pros and cons of each of them and that way I am able to pick the best one for me.

I believe that every woman who is not married should have backups in case things don’t work out with the main boyfriend.

The problem with being loyal to one man before marriage is that you are putting all your effort and energy into a man who will probably not commit to you.

He will call you ‘wifey’ but still cheat on you every chance he gets while you are busy cooking and cleaning for him. If there is no ring on your finger, date around until one man decided to lock you down in marriage.

Show these men that you have a life out of the relationship and that you are willing to walk away if they are not making you happy because you won’t have a shortage of likely replacements.

Stop giving your loyalty to every man you go out with. The only time you should be exclusive with a man is when he offers you a real commitment.

Asking you to move in with him without marriage is not a real commitment. Introducing you to his folks is not a real commitment either.

Let him show you how committed he is to you by asking you to marry him and only then should you reward him with your loyalty.

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