Contemplating cheating on wife

I am a middle-aged man with three wonderful children and a beautiful wife. We have been married for 19 years. I had never thought of cheating on my wife until I met this married woman at my university. She is very nice, beautiful and interesting company — an exemplification of my ideal woman. She demands nothing from me except my company and she loves me very much.

However, we have not had sex and I keep telling her that I am not ready, especially because of my values. I know I am doing the wrong thing, but we are truly in love with each other. Please advise me on what I can do to manage this situation. I still love my wife, but I also love this woman.

                                                                     {BO}

Your take

BO, that woman is a lion whose claws are hidden. She may be out to destroy your marriage, so if you love your wife, give her all your love and affection and you will not be left with any for another woman.

{John Ngugi}

A relationship between a man and a woman cannot blossom without sex. It is going to happen soon and you will only come to your senses when it will be too late.

{Ouma Ragumo}

How would you feel if another man was that close to your wife? She may be HIV-positive and out to destroy the family you have struggled to raise. Be a good father and mentor for your children.

{Onyango Outha}

Dating someone’s wife is like signing your death warrant. What if you discovered that your wife was head over heels in love with another man? Tell her to direct that affection to her husband and remain faithful.

{Tasma Charles}