The best advice on leadership anyone can use

<!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> Normal 0 false false false EN-GB X-NONE X-NONE </xml><xml> </xml> <style> /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-priority:99; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0in; mso-para-margin-right:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:10.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0in; line-height:115%; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:11.0pt; font-family:"Calibri",sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-ansi-language:EN-GB;} </style> A few days ago I had an opportunity to experience what I would term as wanting leadership and I recoiled with sympathy for they that work under the guardianship of this particular leader. Just to dive quickly into the issues that matter: I observed how the said individual was keen to detail , excellent at his work,  aware of all the rules and stipulations – which he ensured were followed to the later and I admired this.

However what is horrifying is his treatment of others; the lesser regard he held for the other persons he engaged with. He shouted instructions to them instead of communicating gently, he called and they had to stop whatever they were doing to present themselves.

I have consistently proposed that if we are to make organizations places of productivity, a source of fulfilment for employees, then we have to make them “safe”: And what I propose today is an orientation that will not only help you to make your organization safe but will also improve the quality of your life, the quality of your relationship and the quality of your leadership.

All one needs to achieve all this, is three levels of awareness: self-awareness, Outer awareness and other awareness:

Self-awareness concerns being able to understand and to gain mastery of your personality, your traits, habits, emotions, motivations, reactions and thought processes. The ability to choose how to respond to various advances and situations gives one control over self. With this, come immeasurable rewards. This however may not be as easy as it may seem but with much patience, one is able to gain the emotional maturity that comes with it.

Outer awareness regards your understanding of the systems and the environment within which you operate. In business it entails knowing your business processes, the regulatory framework and the competitive environment. In other settings it involves having an understanding of the same paragons.

Other awareness often lacks among many and it’s this that creates situations as described above. It refers to the ability and capacity to step out of ourselves and to know and understand as others would. This allows you to suspend judgement, to sense check your assumptions, to challenge prejudice and discover commonalities. It opens up opportunities for connecting, for mutual respect, for building trust. It calls for listening to understand, cultivating curiosity about others. This goes to the foundations of creating meaningful relationship and inspiring a feeling of safety despite variances in opinion, culture or personalities and drives relations to a whole new level of connection where rather than engaging from a place of discord, we begin to find accord and to recognize the parallel nature of our shared existence.

Anyone who acquires the three level of awareness will become a better leader, a better teacher, better sales person, a better spouse and a better friend.

 A few days ago I had an opportunity to experience what I would term as wanting leadership and I recoiled with sympathy for they that work under the guardianship of this particular leader. Just to dive quickly into the issues that matter: I observed how the said individual was keen to detail , excellent at his work,  aware of all the rules and stipulations – which he ensured were followed to the later and I admired this.

However what is horrifying is his treatment of others; the lesser regard he held for the other persons he engaged with. He shouted instructions to them instead of communicating gently, he called and they had to stop whatever they were doing to present themselves.

I have consistently proposed that if we are to make organizations places of productivity, a source of fulfilment for employees, then we have to make them “safe”: And what I propose today is an orientation that will not only help you to make your organization safe but will also improve the quality of your life, the quality of your relationship and the quality of your leadership.

All one needs to achieve all this, is three levels of awareness: self-awareness, Outer awareness and other awareness:

Self-awareness concerns being able to understand and to gain mastery of your personality, your traits, habits, emotions, motivations, reactions and thought processes. The ability to choose how to respond to various advances and situations gives one control over self. With this, come immeasurable rewards. This however may not be as easy as it may seem but with much patience, one is able to gain the emotional maturity that comes with it.

Outer awareness regards your understanding of the systems and the environment within which you operate. In business it entails knowing your business processes, the regulatory framework and the competitive environment. In other settings it involves having an understanding of the same paragons.

Other awareness often lacks among many and it’s this that creates situations as described above. It refers to the ability and capacity to step out of ourselves and to know and understand as others would. This allows you to suspend judgement, to sense check your assumptions, to challenge prejudice and discover commonalities. It opens up opportunities for connecting, for mutual respect, for building trust. It calls for listening to understand, cultivating curiosity about others. This goes to the foundations of creating meaningful relationship and inspiring a feeling of safety despite variances in opinion, culture or personalities and drives relations to a whole new level of connection where rather than engaging from a place of discord, we begin to find accord and to recognize the parallel nature of our shared existence.

Anyone who acquires the three level of awareness will become a better leader, a better teacher, better sales person, a better spouse and a better friend.

 A few days ago I had an opportunity to experience what I would term as wanting leadership and I recoiled with sympathy for they that work under the guardianship of this particular leader. Just to dive quickly into the issues that matter: I observed how the said individual was keen to detail , excellent at his work,  aware of all the rules and stipulations – which he ensured were followed to the later and I admired this.

However what is horrifying is his treatment of others; the lesser regard he held for the other persons he engaged with. He shouted instructions to them instead of communicating gently, he called and they had to stop whatever they were doing to present themselves.

I have consistently proposed that if we are to make organizations places of productivity, a source of fulfilment for employees, then we have to make them “safe”: And what I propose today is an orientation that will not only help you to make your organization safe but will also improve the quality of your life, the quality of your relationship and the quality of your leadership.

All one needs to achieve all this, is three levels of awareness: self-awareness, Outer awareness and other awareness:

Self-awareness concerns being able to understand and to gain mastery of your personality, your traits, habits, emotions, motivations, reactions and thought processes. The ability to choose how to respond to various advances and situations gives one control over self. With this, come immeasurable rewards. This however may not be as easy as it may seem but with much patience, one is able to gain the emotional maturity that comes with it.

Outer awareness regards your understanding of the systems and the environment within which you operate. In business it entails knowing your business processes, the regulatory framework and the competitive environment. In other settings it involves having an understanding of the same paragons.

Other awareness often lacks among many and it’s this that creates situations as described above. It refers to the ability and capacity to step out of ourselves and to know and understand as others would. This allows you to suspend judgement, to sense check your assumptions, to challenge prejudice and discover commonalities. It opens up opportunities for connecting, for mutual respect, for building trust. It calls for listening to understand, cultivating curiosity about others. This goes to the foundations of creating meaningful relationship and inspiring a feeling of safety despite variances in opinion, culture or personalities and drives relations to a whole new level of connection where rather than engaging from a place of discord, we begin to find accord and to recognize the parallel nature of our shared existence.

Anyone who acquires the three level of awareness will become a better leader, a better teacher, better sales person, a better spouse and a better friend.

 A few days ago I had an opportunity to experience what I would term as wanting leadership and I recoiled with sympathy for they that work under the guardianship of this particular leader. Just to dive quickly into the issues that matter: I observed how the said individual was keen to detail , excellent at his work,  aware of all the rules and stipulations – which he ensured were followed to the later and I admired this.

However what is horrifying is his treatment of others; the lesser regard he held for the other persons he engaged with. He shouted instructions to them instead of communicating gently, he called and they had to stop whatever they were doing to present themselves.

I have consistently proposed that if we are to make organizations places of productivity, a source of fulfilment for employees, then we have to make them “safe”: And what I propose today is an orientation that will not only help you to make your organization safe but will also improve the quality of your life, the quality of your relationship and the quality of your leadership.

All one needs to achieve all this, is three levels of awareness: self-awareness, Outer awareness and other awareness:

Self-awareness concerns being able to understand and to gain mastery of your personality, your traits, habits, emotions, motivations, reactions and thought processes. The ability to choose how to respond to various advances and situations gives one control over self. With this, come immeasurable rewards. This however may not be as easy as it may seem but with much patience, one is able to gain the emotional maturity that comes with it.

Outer awareness regards your understanding of the systems and the environment within which you operate. In business it entails knowing your business processes, the regulatory framework and the competitive environment. In other settings it involves having an understanding of the same paragons.

Other awareness often lacks among many and it’s this that creates situations as described above. It refers to the ability and capacity to step out of ourselves and to know and understand as others would. This allows you to suspend judgement, to sense check your assumptions, to challenge prejudice and discover commonalities. It opens up opportunities for connecting, for mutual respect, for building trust. It calls for listening to understand, cultivating curiosity about others. This goes to the foundations of creating meaningful relationship and inspiring a feeling of safety despite variances in opinion, culture or personalities and drives relations to a whole new level of connection where rather than engaging from a place of discord, we begin to find accord and to recognize the parallel nature of our shared existence.

Anyone who acquires the three level of awareness will become a better leader, a better teacher, better sales person, a better spouse and a better friend.

 A few days ago I had an opportunity to experience what I would term as wanting leadership and I recoiled with sympathy for they that work under the guardianship of this particular leader. Just to dive quickly into the issues that matter: I observed how the said individual was keen to detail , excellent at his work,  aware of all the rules and stipulations – which he ensured were followed to the later and I admired this.

However what is horrifying is his treatment of others; the lesser regard he held for the other persons he engaged with. He shouted instructions to them instead of communicating gently, he called and they had to stop whatever they were doing to present themselves.

I have consistently proposed that if we are to make organizations places of productivity, a source of fulfilment for employees, then we have to make them “safe”: And what I propose today is an orientation that will not only help you to make your organization safe but will also improve the quality of your life, the quality of your relationship and the quality of your leadership.

All one needs to achieve all this, is three levels of awareness: self-awareness, Outer awareness and other awareness:

Self-awareness concerns being able to understand and to gain mastery of your personality, your traits, habits, emotions, motivations, reactions and thought processes. The ability to choose how to respond to various advances and situations gives one control over self. With this, come immeasurable rewards. This however may not be as easy as it may seem but with much patience, one is able to gain the emotional maturity that comes with it.

Outer awareness regards your understanding of the systems and the environment within which you operate. In business it entails knowing your business processes, the regulatory framework and the competitive environment. In other settings it involves having an understanding of the same paragons.

Other awareness often lacks among many and it’s this that creates situations as described above. It refers to the ability and capacity to step out of ourselves and to know and understand as others would. This allows you to suspend judgement, to sense check your assumptions, to challenge prejudice and discover commonalities. It opens up opportunities for connecting, for mutual respect, for building trust. It calls for listening to understand, cultivating curiosity about others. This goes to the foundations of creating meaningful relationship and inspiring a feeling of safety despite variances in opinion, culture or personalities and drives relations to a whole new level of connection where rather than engaging from a place of discord, we begin to find accord and to recognize the parallel nature of our shared existence.

Anyone who acquires the three level of awareness will become a better leader, a better teacher, better sales person, a better spouse and a better friend.

 A few days ago I had an opportunity to experience what I would term as wanting leadership and I recoiled with sympathy for they that work under the guardianship of this particular leader. Just to dive quickly into the issues that matter: I observed how the said individual was keen to detail , excellent at his work,  aware of all the rules and stipulations – which he ensured were followed to the later and I admired this.

However what is horrifying is his treatment of others; the lesser regard he held for the other persons he engaged with. He shouted instructions to them instead of communicating gently, he called and they had to stop whatever they were doing to present themselves.

I have consistently proposed that if we are to make organizations places of productivity, a source of fulfilment for employees, then we have to make them “safe”: And what I propose today is an orientation that will not only help you to make your organization safe but will also improve the quality of your life, the quality of your relationship and the quality of your leadership.

All one needs to achieve all this, is three levels of awareness: self-awareness, Outer awareness and other awareness:

Self-awareness concerns being able to understand and to gain mastery of your personality, your traits, habits, emotions, motivations, reactions and thought processes. The ability to choose how to respond to various advances and situations gives one control over self. With this, come immeasurable rewards. This however may not be as easy as it may seem but with much patience, one is able to gain the emotional maturity that comes with it.

Outer awareness regards your understanding of the systems and the environment within which you operate. In business it entails knowing your business processes, the regulatory framework and the competitive environment. In other settings it involves having an understanding of the same paragons.

Other awareness often lacks among many and it’s this that creates situations as described above. It refers to the ability and capacity to step out of ourselves and to know and understand as others would. This allows you to suspend judgement, to sense check your assumptions, to challenge prejudice and discover commonalities. It opens up opportunities for connecting, for mutual respect, for building trust. It calls for listening to understand, cultivating curiosity about others. This goes to the foundations of creating meaningful relationship and inspiring a feeling of safety despite variances in opinion, culture or personalities and drives relations to a whole new level of connection where rather than engaging from a place of discord, we begin to find accord and to recognize the parallel nature of our shared existence.

Anyone who acquires the three level of awareness will become a better leader, a better teacher, better sales person, a better spouse and a better friend.

 A few days ago I had an opportunity to experience what I would term as wanting leadership and I recoiled with sympathy for they that work under the guardianship of this particular leader. Just to dive quickly into the issues that matter: I observed how the said individual was keen to detail , excellent at his work,  aware of all the rules and stipulations – which he ensured were followed to the later and I admired this.

However what is horrifying is his treatment of others; the lesser regard he held for the other persons he engaged with. He shouted instructions to them instead of communicating gently, he called and they had to stop whatever they were doing to present themselves.

I have consistently proposed that if we are to make organizations places of productivity, a source of fulfilment for employees, then we have to make them “safe”: And what I propose today is an orientation that will not only help you to make your organization safe but will also improve the quality of your life, the quality of your relationship and the quality of your leadership.

All one needs to achieve all this, is three levels of awareness: self-awareness, Outer awareness and other awareness:

Self-awareness concerns being able to understand and to gain mastery of your personality, your traits, habits, emotions, motivations, reactions and thought processes. The ability to choose how to respond to various advances and situations gives one control over self. With this, come immeasurable rewards. This however may not be as easy as it may seem but with much patience, one is able to gain the emotional maturity that comes with it.

Outer awareness regards your understanding of the systems and the environment within which you operate. In business it entails knowing your business processes, the regulatory framework and the competitive environment. In other settings it involves having an understanding of the same paragons.

Other awareness often lacks among many and it’s this that creates situations as described above. It refers to the ability and capacity to step out of ourselves and to know and understand as others would. This allows you to suspend judgement, to sense check your assumptions, to challenge prejudice and discover commonalities. It opens up opportunities for connecting, for mutual respect, for building trust. It calls for listening to understand, cultivating curiosity about others. This goes to the foundations of creating meaningful relationship and inspiring a feeling of safety despite variances in opinion, culture or personalities and drives relations to a whole new level of connection where rather than engaging from a place of discord, we begin to find accord and to recognize the parallel nature of our shared existence.

Anyone who acquires the three level of awareness will become a better leader, a better teacher, better sales person, a better spouse and a better friend.

 A few days ago I had an opportunity to experience what I would term as wanting leadership and I recoiled with sympathy for they that work under the guardianship of this particular leader. Just to dive quickly into the issues that matter: I observed how the said individual was keen to detail , excellent at his work,  aware of all the rules and stipulations – which he ensured were followed to the later and I admired this.

However what is horrifying is his treatment of others; the lesser regard he held for the other persons he engaged with. He shouted instructions to them instead of communicating gently, he called and they had to stop whatever they were doing to present themselves.

I have consistently proposed that if we are to make organizations places of productivity, a source of fulfilment for employees, then we have to make them “safe”: And what I propose today is an orientation that will not only help you to make your organization safe but will also improve the quality of your life, the quality of your relationship and the quality of your leadership.

All one needs to achieve all this, is three levels of awareness: self-awareness, Outer awareness and other awareness:

Self-awareness concerns being able to understand and to gain mastery of your personality, your traits, habits, emotions, motivations, reactions and thought processes. The ability to choose how to respond to various advances and situations gives one control over self. With this, come immeasurable rewards. This however may not be as easy as it may seem but with much patience, one is able to gain the emotional maturity that comes with it.

Outer awareness regards your understanding of the systems and the environment within which you operate. In business it entails knowing your business processes, the regulatory framework and the competitive environment. In other settings it involves having an understanding of the same paragons.

Other awareness often lacks among many and it’s this that creates situations as described above. It refers to the ability and capacity to step out of ourselves and to know and understand as others would. This allows you to suspend judgement, to sense check your assumptions, to challenge prejudice and discover commonalities. It opens up opportunities for connecting, for mutual respect, for building trust. It calls for listening to understand, cultivating curiosity about others. This goes to the foundations of creating meaningful relationship and inspiring a feeling of safety despite variances in opinion, culture or personalities and drives relations to a whole new level of connection where rather than engaging from a place of discord, we begin to find accord and to recognize the parallel nature of our shared existence.

Anyone who acquires the three level of awareness will become a better leader, a better teacher, better sales person, a better spouse and a better friend.

 A few days ago I had an opportunity to experience what I would term as wanting leadership and I recoiled with sympathy for they that work under the guardianship of this particular leader. Just to dive quickly into the issues that matter: I observed how the said individual was keen to detail , excellent at his work,  aware of all the rules and stipulations – which he ensured were followed to the later and I admired this.

However what is horrifying is his treatment of others; the lesser regard he held for the other persons he engaged with. He shouted instructions to them instead of communicating gently, he called and they had to stop whatever they were doing to present themselves.

I have consistently proposed that if we are to make organizations places of productivity, a source of fulfilment for employees, then we have to make them “safe”: And what I propose today is an orientation that will not only help you to make your organization safe but will also improve the quality of your life, the quality of your relationship and the quality of your leadership.

All one needs to achieve all this, is three levels of awareness: self-awareness, Outer awareness and other awareness:

Self-awareness concerns being able to understand and to gain mastery of your personality, your traits, habits, emotions, motivations, reactions and thought processes. The ability to choose how to respond to various advances and situations gives one control over self. With this, come immeasurable rewards. This however may not be as easy as it may seem but with much patience, one is able to gain the emotional maturity that comes with it.

Outer awareness regards your understanding of the systems and the environment within which you operate. In business it entails knowing your business processes, the regulatory framework and the competitive environment. In other settings it involves having an understanding of the same paragons.

Other awareness often lacks among many and it’s this that creates situations as described above. It refers to the ability and capacity to step out of ourselves and to know and understand as others would. This allows you to suspend judgement, to sense check your assumptions, to challenge prejudice and discover commonalities. It opens up opportunities for connecting, for mutual respect, for building trust. It calls for listening to understand, cultivating curiosity about others. This goes to the foundations of creating meaningful relationship and inspiring a feeling of safety despite variances in opinion, culture or personalities and drives relations to a whole new level of connection where rather than engaging from a place of discord, we begin to find accord and to recognize the parallel nature of our shared existence.

Anyone who acquires the three level of awareness will become a better leader, a better teacher, better sales person, a better spouse and a better friend.

 A few days ago I had an opportunity to experience what I would term as wanting leadership and I recoiled with sympathy for they that work under the guardianship of this particular leader. Just to dive quickly into the issues that matter: I observed how the said individual was keen to detail , excellent at his work,  aware of all the rules and stipulations – which he ensured were followed to the later and I admired this.

However what is horrifying is his treatment of others; the lesser regard he held for the other persons he engaged with. He shouted instructions to them instead of communicating gently, he called and they had to stop whatever they were doing to present themselves.

I have consistently proposed that if we are to make organizations places of productivity, a source of fulfillment for employees, then we have to make them “safe”: And what I propose today is an orientation that will not only help you to make your organization safe but will also improve the quality of your life, the quality of your relationship and the quality of your leadership.

All one needs to achieve all this, is three levels of awareness: self-awareness, Outer awareness and other awareness:

Self-awareness concerns being able to understand and to gain mastery of your personality, your traits, habits, emotions, motivations, reactions and thought processes. The ability to choose how to respond to various advances and situations gives one control over self. With this, come immeasurable rewards. This however may not be as easy as it may seem but with much patience, one is able to gain the emotional maturity that comes with it.

Outer awareness regards your understanding of the systems and the environment within which you operate. In business it entails knowing your business processes, the regulatory framework and the competitive environment. In other settings it involves having an understanding of the same paragons.

Other awareness often lacks among many and it’s this that creates situations as described above. It refers to the ability and capacity to step out of ourselves and to know and understand as others would. This allows you to suspend judgement, to