Controversial Tanzanian blogger Mange Kimambi has advised Hamisa Mobetto to leave her marriage to Burkina Faso footballer Aziz Ki if he cheats or mistreats her.
Mange, known for her outspoken views, urged Hamisa not to endure what she called "nonsense" in the name of patience.
"Sasa ngoja leo nikupe ushauri mdogo wangu, maana sipendi mno jinsi wanawake wanaambiwaga wawe na uvumilivu wa kifala kwenye ndoa," she wrote.
She explained that patience in marriage is necessary, but only for situations beyond human control, such as illness, disability, or financial hardship.
However, she insisted that no woman should tolerate infidelity, emotional or physical abuse, or neglect from her husband.
"Magojwa, mume kapigwa stroke vumilia, sijui mume kapata ulemavu vumilia, mume kafukuzwa kazi mnapitia kipindi kigumu vumilia," she stated. "Sio janaume linatia nje, linazaa nje, linalala na house girl, kutwa linarudi nyumbani saa 10 usiku, lina ku abuse emotionally and physically. Hapana, usivumilie huo upuuzi."
Mange made it clear that if Aziz Ki exhibits such behaviour, Hamisa should leave without hesitation. "Aziz akifanya hayo niliyoorodhesha, toka kwenye ndoa hata wiki ijayo dada yako nitakusapoti. Tutacheza harusi ingine, sio shida zetu," she said.
She also criticised the societal expectation that women should endure mistreatment to maintain their marriages. Mange argued that a woman should only tolerate struggles that are beyond human control, not those caused by her husband's bad choices.
"Mwanamke unatakiwa kuvumilia matatizo yaliyopo chini ya uwezo wa Mungu... hutakiwi kuvumilia matatizo ya kishetani na kiibilisi," she said. "Wengine mnatoa mpaka nyuma huku mkidai ni uvumilivu wa ndoa. Janaume linalala mpaka na ndugu na marafiki zako eti unavumilia. Hizi zote ni dhambi kwa Mungu, so why wewe uvumilie?"
She encouraged women to prioritise their happiness, saying marriage should provide peace. "Mi sipendagi wanawake wa Tz kutwa kuvumilia maujinga kwenye ndoa kisa uonekane umeolewa," she said. Mange also shared her own experience, revealing that her marriage brings her so much peace that she sometimes takes breaks from social media.
"Mi dada yenu hakuna sehemu napata amani ya roho kama kwa shemeji. Yani mnaweza mkani stress huku kwenye social media mpaka natetemeka, ila yeye akiingia nyumbani tu, nasahau kuna kitu hata kinaitwa social media," she wrote.
Her post comes just days after Hamisa Mobetto and Aziz Ki's grand wedding. The celebrations began on February 15, when Aziz Ki paid dowry to Hamisa's mother, Shufaa Rutiginga, gifting her 30 cows and Sh30 million.
Their Nikah ceremony followed on February 16 at the Nnuur Mosque in Mbweni, officiated by the Grand Sheikh of Dar es Salaam, Sheikh Walid Alhad Omar.
The couple then hosted a grand reception on February19 at the Superdome Masaki in Dar es Salaam, attended by family, friends, and celebrities.
