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Dating friend’s wife

I am having a relationship with my friend's wife. She is a wonderful woman but her husband treats her very badly. Our relationship started a year ago when her husband was transferred to Mombasa. He asked me to keep an eye on his wife. I am also married with two kids. She is not willing to leave her husband and I cannot leave my wife. Is it okay to keep the relationship because we are not hurting anyone?

Titus, Nairobi

Dr Cupid

Shame on you! It is not okay. There is nothing like a harmless affair. Affairs will always lead to destruction and heartbreak.

Trouble after moving in

My boyfriend asked me to move in with him in January after dating for one year. It is now four months and we both agree the move happened too soon. However, neither of us wants to move out. He now claims he wants some space and thus spends two nights a week outside. This does not sound reasonable. How can we give each other space yet we both arrive from work late so we barely see each other during the week? Please help?

Patricia, Nairobi

Dr Cupid

The writing is on the wall you need a plan B.

Girlfriend still flirting

My girlfriend cheated on me when we had just started dating but I forgave her because we had not been together long and she was not taking the relationship seriously. Then, a few weeks later, I found flirty messages from two different numbers. She promised to delete the numbers and end the friendship with both men. Two days ago, I found a message from one of them and the contents were extremely sexual. I do not know what to do?

Jackson, Meru

Dr Cupid

If she fools you once, shame on her. But if she fools you twice then shame on you! Move on because she does not want you.

I love workmate

I have been happily married for four years. Recently, I spent a lot of time with a colleague, and got very close. I have strong feelings for him, which he has reciprocated. I love my husband but my colleague makes me feel young and beautiful once again. He has asked me to let our relationship move to the next level but I am confused, please help?

Joyce, Nakuru

Dr Cupid

Do not play with fire because it will burn you. Be careful. The grass is never greener on the other side. You may lose the love and stability your husband has given you all these years for excitement that will never last.