The beginning of every year is a great opportunity to evaluate yourself and your relationships. It is an opportunity to reflect and be true to yourself; Is your relationship growing and thriving? Are you growing as an individual and with your significant other?
-Beginning the year with a reflection, evaluation and a way forward is the best plan you can choose to adapt.
It helps to take an honest audit and make adjustments where necessary. Every New Year brings with it a sense of renewal, new energies, excitement and anticipation. It also brings along great expectations, much optimism and gratitude.
-It is helpful to commit to personal development, defining every relationship in your life.
Truth be told, having a successful and fulfilling relationship means being thoughtful on a daily basis about your contribution to the relationship. It is similar to a garden, which, to enjoy its full benefits, one has to engage in ground preparation, weeding, trimming and watering.
-Likewise, a good relationship must be nurtured in order to grow and thrive.
At the same time, it is important to acknowledge that some relationships simply need to go. You have continued to struggle maintaining a relationship that simply gets you sick and brings you down. A toxic relationship can hold you back, denying you of exploiting your full potential growing and thriving. You simply have to take responsibility and bring them to a stop!
-Whatever you do, avoid rebound relationships.
A rebound relationship is one that occurs shortly after the break-up of a significant love relationship. It generally happens when people break up then immediately involve themselves with someone else to prove to themselves that they are worthy of love.
-Engaging in another relationship instantly feeds their personal worth and reduces the pain of the loss and grief of the lost relationship.
The justification can often be that “oh am so needed in this relationship,” or even for others to see that they were not in the wrong after all, they want to prove to themselves and those around them that they are certainly worthy of another’s love.
-As you choose to end the relationship, or even worse get dumped, the last thing you should do is engage in a rebound.
James, in this situation, had this to say; “I hooked up with an old friend and we are doing so well together after my girlfriend walked away. I was devastated, finally I have found acceptance, love and a sense of belonging. In many ways I miss my EX, but am enjoying.”
-It is important to be true to yourself and explore whether your motives are sincere.
If you had not just broken up with your Ex would you consider the relationship with the present find or are you simply feeding your ego? Leaving in denial? Have you taken time to reflect, resolve the conflict with your previous partner and possibly explore all options for reconciliation?
-It is worth remembering that sometimes the need to mask pain can drive you to more agony.
This is the biggest problem in a rebound relationship. Usually someone ends up being used and hurt as a result and guess what it could be you...If you are in a relationship to distract yourself from the hurt of the broken relationship, you will probably hurt yourself in the new relationship. Do yourself a favour and step aside, acknowledge your emotions and heal before being in another romantic relationship.
-Getting a shoulder to cry on when one is down is a comfort zone.
Nevertheless, it is easy for one to sometimes mistake the comfort of the new relationship for romance and fantasise to suite their immediate needs; love and a sense of belonging. This state of affairs is temporary and the reality is that you might just be enjoying the difference of personalities and closing your eyes to the flaws of your new find.
-Whatever the case, wake up and save yourself the possible disappointment and pain.
You could probably be spending a significant amount of time focusing on your previous partner, wondering what could have gone wrong and you are making the right decision to engage in another relationship. You have many unanswered questions and dealing with many emotions. Whenever you focus on your old relationship, you are sabotaging the success of your present potential relationship, so do yourself a favor and sort out what you need to before you move on!
