For instance, in as much as sisterhood entails support and loyalty, this privilege should not be misused. Friendship is not having one’s life take centre stage at the expense of another’s.
In the same way, a woman would want her goals and aspirations affirmed and encouraged; she should as well be aware of what her friends hanker after and offer support.
Similarly, sisterhood is far from making one’s lifetime mission pleasing friends while putting one’s life on hold. Being a puppet or a friend’s shadow is not loyalty but slavery. Isn’t it funny that those people that a woman sweats to please are least interested? True friendship is not one above the other. Sisterhood is not bootlicking.
Sisterhood does not mean one’s entitlement to everything a friend owns or accomplished. A woman should cherish her friend’s success as if it were her own.
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Friends could have similar likes, interests or dreams. However, always fighting for what a friend accomplishes portrays competition and jealousy. If only this type of woman could delve into her life and realize the notable things she possesses. Definitely, there is something special in her that her friends could be envious of.
As it is with marriage, sisterhood is for better and for worse. It is not hiding when a friend is in tribulations and popping in like a magician when things are smooth sailing.
Likewise, it is also not about expecting a friend to be ready to help in all things possible and impossible. Sometimes a friend may fail to assist either because she has no time, or forgot to. A true sister should remember the many times the friend voluntarily lent a hand instead of questioning the relationship.
Sisterhood is eternal. A woman should forever keep that cheerleader friend who literally chanted her friend’s way to progress. The woman is free to befriend her colleagues.
However, she should not disregard that friend who believed in her when everyone else looked the other way. This friend might be on a blue-collar job or jobless, but a woman must keep in mind that she accepted her weakness, which her now favoured colleagues might exploit.
Sisterhood is not expecting forgiveness for downright betrayal. For example, no woman should date her friend’s ex thinking she will eventually forgive her, she has no right to be mad or that she moved on. In a nutshell, a woman should avoid doing whatever it is that will hurt her friend.
aowino@standardmedia.co.ke
