By Jennifer Karina
Can a romantic relationship exist without sex? Yes it can. Couples that have less sex do not necessarily have a loveless marriage.
What is important is for both partners to keep their lines of communication open and find fulfilment in their overall intimacy levels — intellectual, emotional, spiritual and recreational.
As long as they remain focused and honest about their needs and feelings, the relationship will thrive!
Prone to conflict
Studies indicate a close correlation between sex, happiness and a better well being. I agree that a marriage without sex may experience some challenges and be more vulnerable to conflict and infidelity.
It is important that sex is not withheld from a partner and if it must, it should only be for a while and in mutual agreement.
If a partner’s sexual desire is higher than the other, it helps to find a middle ground. Compromise is key.
Research reveals that sex has great benefits; it could lower your stress and blood pressure, boosts your immunity, gives you a good night sleep, and is great for bladder control.
Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of antibodies called immunoglobulin, protecting you from colds and other infections.
It is also good for the brain, because after sex it (brain) releases endorphins, which decrease stress.
Did you know that something in the sperm contributes to the good effect on a woman’s mood and also gives her a softer skin?
Sex also boosts your body’s oxytocin, which reduces pain, headaches, arthritis and PMS symptoms.
It is also said that while having sex, a woman’s body doubles the oestrogen levels and thus provides great physical and emotional benefits.
Research shows that regular sex increases a person’s lifespan. I mean who does not want to live longer? More sex is good for you, so why not enjoy yourself.
More evidence? A research carried out on women whose partners used condoms indicated that their partners were more prone to depression than those who do not.
Semen acts as an antidepressant in women. So if you are prone to mood swings and depression, you probably need more sex with your partner.
Esteem booster
Sex is also a great self-esteem booster. That is why many young people seek sexual relationships to boost their self-esteem, resulting to dire consequences.
At the end of the day, spicing your sex life boils down to priorities.
If sex is a priority to a partner, it is important to engage in an open dialogue and take steps to create a mutually satisfying sexual relationship.
The writer is a relationship coach and author, Marriage Built to Last. You can reach her on; www.jenniekarina.co.ke
