What do mean really want? This question puzzles many married women. The other day I was having lunch with a male friend who got married a year ago and all he did was complain about his wife’s failings.
He claimed to love his wife but complained she did not understand his needs.
Sitting there listening to him open his heart, I wished his wife could hear him. Men are not complicated creatures if you follow a few rules. So I have decided to help fellow women with a few tips on the things than men want from their wives.
The most important need for a man is respect. If you fail in this you will lose your husband. Men would rather feel unloved than disrespected.
Husbands need to know that their wives respect them both privately and publicly. Men thrive on respect.
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Secondly, men care about their wives’ appearance. A man wants his wife to look good.
Women are always complaining about their men straying yet some are in their early 30s but look 50. Something happens to some women when they get married. It is as if after the wedding they not only get the marriage licence but also the licence to let go of themselves.
They add weight in the entire wrong places and refuse to go to the gym or eat healthy food. Others seem to lose a sense of fashion and begin to wear clothes which our mothers wore in the 1980s.
No husband would like a wife who doesn’t pay attention to her appearance.
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Thirdly, quit the nagging and criticising. Men hate it when their wives criticise or judge them. It is one of the basic needs of a husband to gain his wife’s confidence in his deeds.
Though they like their wives to warn them if they are about to do something really wrong, no man would want his wife to criticise him for all his acts upfront.
Men want more sex. It’s true that sex is important for both the wife and the husband, but for husbands it is perhaps more so.
Men want more sex because of their strong need to be desired by their wives. Regular, fulfilling sex is critical to a man’s sense of feeling loved and desired. When men feel that their wives desire them sexually, it has a profound effect on the rest of their lives. It gives them an increasing sense of confidence and well-being that carries over into every other area of his life.
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When a husband feels rejected sexually, he not only feels his wife is rejecting him physically, but that she is somehow rejecting his life as a husband, provider and man. Men are like babies; they constantly need affirmation that you believe in them. Most men like to be patted on the back. Compliment your husband often. Just don’t over do it with sickly sweet oozes of how great he is. That type of affirmation will backfire. Men believe it is important for them to protect and provide for those they love. Let him know that you believe in his talents and skills and support him
Men do not like it when you try to change them. If you did not like them the way they were, then why did you get married in the first place?
Do not try to change your husband. Do not believe that nonsense that you can change a man; he will only change when he wants to, not because you nag.
