Once upon a time, love was considered as the highest crown
one could receive from another human being. Well, it’s still is though in
different versions these days. Acts of kindness, affection, and so forth could
be argued to be a sign of love, couldn’t be far from the truth.
With love comes a certain vulnerability that exposes our
deepest fears, failures, past trauma that we hide from the rest of the world
with ‘big confident smiles.’ This information could be lethal if it falls into
the wrong hands or, in this case, the wrong person. My expression of ‘handing a
loaded gun to a monkey’ comes to light with every stroke at the keyboard.
Being betrayed by someone you once trusted with your life is
the worst pain anyone can endure. Gone are the days when lovers used to protect
each other’s secrets, failures, fears, and all those weaknesses and have sadly
been replaced by a generation that has perfected the art of being savages.
Dating world today has been affected adversely owing to the
overflowing pool of emotionally ‘damaged’ candidates since we all at some point
trusted someone with our deepest fears/regrets, which in turn was used against
us in the quest of winning an argument or proving a point. This has resulted in
a person developing a hard shell protecting their hearts from any possible
point of intrusion due to mistrusts built over a period of time, thereby making
it hard to ever open up fully to anyone. The guards are always up.
This unfortunate phenomenon has denied some of us to truly
embrace the spirit of companionship, enjoy the feeling of being loved, and the
opportunity of sharing your life with the would-be partner due to the
unresolved ghosts of one’s past. We’ve missed out on opportunities to enjoy
peace of mind in the arms of any partner that comes along due to what has been
stolen to us, but hey! Read on….
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We all hope for better and meaningful relationships, but our
ghosts keep haunting us. Yes, you’ve been hurt, betrayed and mistreated before,
and yes, it sucks. Unless you deal with all those ghosts and let the past
remain in the past, you’ll never get to enjoy what the present has to offer.
And No, I didn’t say it’s easy, but it’s worth a try.
Give yourself time to heal, repair all the damage, and this
I can promise you, a perfect sunset awaits you. Give yourself a chance to be
happy; you deserve it. Don’t let the enemy steal your happiness.