What makes a happy husband

Zawadi Lompisha

If you ask any bride what her plan is for her marriage, she will most likely tell you that she intends to make her husband happy. Then the question begs; if a good number of brides want to make their husbands happy, how come we have marriages crumbling all around us because of unfaithfulness, among other things?

Figuring out how to make your husband happy is not an overnight affair. It takes many years and sometimes a lifetime.

Each marriage is different so hopefully, if you are reading this, you already know some of the things that make your husband happy.

One of the first things towards this is understanding your husband and what makes him tick. One size does not fit all.

Praise Him

As always, I asked fellow married women for the one thing they do that keeps their men happy. Tip number one was from a dear friend.

She says her 14 happy years have been because of praise. Sorry to burst your bubble but it is not you getting all the praise!

My friend Enid says that nothing works better for her man that being told what a great job he is doing. She praises her husband when he helps with the kids, remembers to open the door for her or has a breakthrough at work.

Every man has an ego in him and if you know how to stroke, he will be the happiest man walking this earth.

Ever heard this comment: "I don’t care about his family, it is him I married."

Well, Susan doesn’t agree with this sentiment. Her secret to her husband’s happiness has been bonding with his family. She says she made it her priority to get to know her hubby’s parents and siblings well and to love them the same way she did her own. When she remembers their special days like birthdays and anniversaries, her hubby literally beams.

Make Him Notice

This suggestion from a friend of my mother’s who’s been married for 33 years always comes back to haunt me when I begin to become complacent.

After being married for a while, the feeling of excitement fades away and a ‘mature’ love develops. This, according to my mum’s friend shouldn’t be.

She has in all her years of marriage strived to treat her husband as if she just met him yesterday. She still does the things she did when they were courting and takes care of her looks and dresses like she did then.

True she is double the size she was, but she is no ordinary grandma! You should make your husband sit up and notice you.

While you are at it, tell him you love him and watch his face crack a smile.

Go ahead and be creative. Your husband will thank you for it.