Dear Greg,
My boyfriend who I have been dating for two months is very secretive, he does a lot for me but he still has other chicks phone numbers on his phone.
He is also always on his phone and always leaves the room to talk on his phone. When I ask him who was on the phone he just says I shouldn’t worry or shrugs his shoulders. What is that all about?
Karen
Dear Karen,
To address your first issue, what exactly is wrong with him having other chick’s numbers on his phone? Do you want him not to know any other chicks because he’s your boyfriend? That’s unrealistic. Do not entertain such jealousies. I would expect him not to be bothered if you happen to have other guys names on your phone either.
Now, about this leaving-the-room-to talk-on-the-phone thing. You’re asking me to speculate about his reasons. That would be wrong. I honestly don’t know why he does what he does. However, I can give you a list of possibilities. To address your first concern, yes, he might be cheating. This is an obvious conclusion to draw, and an easy one. He seems to show no signs of guilt and is so casual about it when you ask him, however you could be wrong.
Maybe he is talking about sensitive family or work issues and he doesn’t want to wash his dirty linen in front of you. Believe it or not, even in a relationship, there is need for privacy sometimes. Face it, you’re not husband and wife, you’ve only been dating for two months. You’re not going to learn everything at one go. That means letting go of paranoia and giving trust a chance. Give it a while and see what
happens.
