She plans to ruin my wedding day

After dating for three years, my fiancé proposed to me and our wedding plans are now at an advanced stage. The wedding is set to take place in two months. Things are, however, not moving on well because my fiancé’s secret lover has sworn that the ceremony will not take place. Apparently, they dated for two months and during that time, she got pregnant. She has now brought this matter to his attention and he seems to be rethinking our wedding. He takes his responsibilities seriously and is afraid that if he marries me, then he will leave his unborn child without a father. I am worried about the possible outcome of this situation. Does she have legal backing to stop our wedding? Please help…
Your take:
Joyce, you have no reason to worry because this woman was not married to your husband to-be. He has no legal obligation to support this woman and her unborn child but since he impregnated her, he should take the responsibility of supporting the child.  He should sign an affidavit that he has agreed to support the child. This will secure your wedding and marriage later on.
{Felix – Oyugisnet}
Your wedding may only be stopped if either or both of you decide not to go ahead with it or if this other woman proves that she is legally married to your fiancé. However, I think the person you should be worried about is not her nor the unborn child but your fiancé. The fact that he had a secret lover makes me wonder what else you may not know about him.  It is also telling that he is considering going back to her.
{Maurice Oduor}

Joyce, put yourself in this other woman’s shoes. How would you feel if you were the one who was pregnant and the father of your child, was planning to marry another woman? This man is not serious with you. Do not act desperate; there are many men out there who can make better husbands. Be patient and wait for your man.
{Onyango Outha}

Joyce, the writing is on the wall. You should thank God that these things are unfolding before you get married. You cannot escape from the fact that your husband to-be impregnated another woman.
Be warned that she will stop the wedding proceedings when the pastor asks that dreaded question. Please sober up and move on with your life.
{Ouma Ragumo}

The sad bit about this situation is that your fiancé had a secret lover and she is carrying his child. This is a wake-up call before you enter into marriage. I am surprised that you have courted this man for that long and you had no idea of his philandering ways.
Before you say, “I do” think soberly if this is the kind of man you want to spend the rest of your life with. If you walk into marriage in a rush, rest assured you will initiate divorce proceeding within a year.
{Etyang Denis}

Forget this drama and marry your man. These are just tactics to discourage you from marrying the man of your dreams.  Life has many challenges and you must fight to overcome them. The fact that your man is responsible means he loves you.
{Aseri Dickson}

If your fiancé is willing to stop your wedding plans to take care of this other woman, then he will make a good husband. If he still wants to marry you, explore other marriage avenues, other than having a church wedding. You can also encourage him to talk to his ex and strike a compromise deal. You landed a good man, go ahead with your plans unless he is not interested.
{Tasma Charles}

Joyce, your fiancé’s secret lover has legal grounds to stop your upcoming wedding. Thank God because she has shown up this early. You are still young and you will find another man who loves you. Painful as it may be; you need to cancel the wedding plans and move on with your life.
{Wesonga Ben}


My take:

Facts of the case
I want to highlight the main issues. First, your fiancé had a two-month affair; two, the woman is pregnant with his child and three, she is threatening to stop your wedding. Four, he takes his responsibilities seriously.
These are all critical facts because they collectively or individually influence the outcome of this matter.
Advocate Samuel Thuku of SN Thuku and Associates says this woman has no legal grounds to interfere with your wedding plans nor stop the wedding.
He  says the law is clear that a  man has no legal obligation to marry a woman with whom he has fathered a child.
The responsibility is more social than legal.
The lawyer says this woman would only have legal capacity to  stop the wedding if she can prove that she was legally married to him or they had lived together for  more than one year and this includes cohabitation regardless of whether the arrangement was from a romantic relationship or not.
In their case,they dated for two months; she, therefore, she has no grounds to push for him to marry her or stop him from marrying another woman.

She has rights too
However, Thuku says this woman is entitled to some rights. According to the law, a man is under obligation to provide for any child or children he has fathered outside his marriage. Once the child is born, she can file a case in the Children’s Court where if she wins, he may be compelled to attach one third of his net salary for maintenance. 
The child shall be entitled to inherit a share of his property in the event that he dies or when he decides to distribute his property amongst his dependants. He is, however, not compelled to cater for her maintenance.

Your husband to-be
It is telling that your husband to-be is considering putting off the wedding to attend to the other woman’s needs. You need to remind him that you are his main responsibility. He can put arrangements to ensure the needs of his child are met without interfering with your wedding plans. What he needs to do is not cancel the wedding but handle his mess like a gentleman. I wish you the best.
{Taurus}
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