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How to get any girl you want

By | Jan 22nd 2011 | 3 min read

By Miss Deegee

Dear Men

Once a month in this column of mine, I will help you better yourselves because, lets face it, some of you need all the help you can get and mine is free. I will generalise my statements and if you feel it doesn’t apply to you as a man, then keep it moving. Turn the page and refrain from sending me angry emails with empty threats.

Here is the thing, all you men out there want to get with a beautiful, nice, sexy (insert whatever adjective best describes the woman of your dreams) woman and I am going to tell you what you can do to get her.

Some of your friends might purport to know how to game women, but trust me they don’t. I do and this is because I am a woman and if you saw me, you would want to get with me. First things first. I would like to disabuse some of you of a certain notion.

There are many of you men out there who are convinced that many (if not all) women are gold diggers. You claim vehemently that women will pay a poor man no mind, but they will get very excited over a man with a lot of cash.

This is where you go wrong. Frankly speaking women (or anyone for that matter), will get excited just over a pile of cash and if you can grasp that notion, you can rule the world. Well, not exactly, but you would be off to a good start.

Anyway, these three tips for men who are looking to game women and not for men who already have women or men who think they know it all because I can’t teach an old dog new tricks.

No sissies

One: Be ridiculously self-confident

Whether you have an objective basis for your confidence or not is not the point. Just be confident. If you can hold her gaze by looking squarely into her eyes, then you will have her full attention.

I know of a guy who can walk up to a woman and straight-up ask her out for a drink or a cup of coffee. His success rate is close to 100 per cent. True story. Now I am not saying that you all need to walk up and down the street trying to ask everything in a skirt out for coffee, but what I am saying is that if you are a wimp, or are needy, desperate, insecure or filled with feelings of self-doubt, do your damn best to hide that mess. It is very unattractive.

Two: Learn what women want

I know this point has been flogged like a dead horse seeing as books have been written about it, songs sang and movies made.

I know this is a tall order because it is quite possible that many women don’t necessarily know what they want.

I am sure most men find that the women they are most interested in are the ones who are least interested in them and the women they are least interested in are the ones who are most interested in them. This is simply because women want to find a man to be with but they don’t really want to be with the man who want to be with them. I know it’s all so very confusing and if you are confused, re-read this paragraph again. Like I said, I would tell you what to do, I never said I would tell you how to do it.

Three: Be vague

That is all I am going to say on this matter. But I think I have made my point.

Remember that you don’t have to be extraordinarily handsome to get a girl because we have seen some really busted-up-looking men with the finest of women by the sides. Nor do you have to have all the money in the world to snag a woman because there are some very rich men with some serious girl problems.

Looking good, dressing nice and having good teeth is all well and good but it is not the end-all, be-all.

Trust me when you get that woman of your dreams, she will take you to the barber, dentist and clothing store and she will upgrade you.

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