I want to tell men here today that you can lose your woman at any time
Human beings have an infinite ability to shock and disappoint
“Young people cannot offer security and maturity. I need experience!” stated Citizen TV and 10 over 10 host Joey Muthengi on Tuesday morning.
She added: “On growing together, you find that the guy you support fully in his hustle days will leave you for someone else when he finally makes it.
“I would rather have someone who has already made it and I just be the support system.”
This got me thinking…
When it comes to making a choice about their interests, women are ruthlessly efficient.
If her boss wants to sleep with her and that guarantees her promotion or more perks and she is the ambitious type, her marriage will not be an encumbrance, just a minor inconvenience.
If you are a 35-year-old man and your wife is 32 and her boss or some politician develops interest in her, it is over for you son.
I know a dozen decent women who can turn down the advances of rich and powerful men but they are the exception, not the rule.
And if the boss wants to marry her, she will leave the poor husband without blinking. But always there is an excuse of, “he cheated”, “he is abusive”, and her army of “go-go-girl' women will cheer into the jackpot.
So many men in Nairobi have lost their women to well-endowed ‘colleagues’ (money-wise and otherwise).
I want to tell men here today that you can lose your woman at any time.
There are men who are turned on by married women and they have made it their duty to entice them as far as possible, tempting them with every charm, goodie at their disposal.
I will urge the men, treat your woman right so that if she has to leave, you should not be the excuse for her leaving. Let her leave for her own reasons.
What I am telling men, is that you can't own a woman or police her. Millennial women hate that very idea.
You can only leave it to God to do the work for you.
In the likely event, she cheats or leaves you, count your losses.
It doesn't matter how much you have spent on her.
I have met very many men whose circumstances never allowed them to go to school. But they got a job or started a business that became a success.
They married a woman from a poor family who had passed her KCSE but never got a chance to go to college or they married a college-educated woman and decided to sponsor her for Masters.
Once done, the women start disrespecting the men and some leave them altogether.
I have never advocated for violence, no matter the reason. I always tell my friends that human beings have an infinite ability to shock and disappoint.
I always take my time to tell them to learn to deal with the fact that their wives can cheat, have cheated or will cheat on them in due course.
They should not beat themselves too hard about how life unravels.
If it was bound to happen, it will happen.
Do you have stories, videos or pictures you would like to share with the world?
Simply click on Post Your Story button placed at the top of the website