Why silent treatment is emotional abuse

By Dayan Masinde | Wednesday, Dec 11th 2019 at 14:31
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1. It demeans your spouse 

It shows your spouse that he/she is not worth speaking to. Hurting him/her in the process.

2. It solves no issues Silent treatment means that issues never get addressed, in fact, they escalate, draining emotions of the both of you.

3. It makes the home cold It makes both of you edgy and uncomfortable, killing emotional connection and intimacy.

4. It abuses the children Children suffer the most when their parents give each other silent treatment, they sense that something is wrong and makes them worry and panic. Children love mom and dad the same.

5. It makes your spouse emotionally unstable Giving your spouse silent treatment makes him/her overthink, wondering what is going on and feeling powerless because you are not communicating.

6. It puts your partner in prison Silent treatment is like putting your partner through solitary confinement where you cut off access to you. Forced imprisonment is abuse.

7. It signals the death of your bond No relationship can thrive or survive without communication. Silent treatment plants seeds of the end is near, tormenting your spouse/partner.

8. It pushes your spouse away Silent treatment makes your partner feel locked out, your spouse/partner withdraws because he/she doesn't know where your heart stands to walk with you in agreement.

9. It comes back to hurt you Your spouse might in return decide to also give you silent treatment which will hurt you especially when eventually you want to talk but your spouse has gotten used to silence.

10. It breeds fear, leaving room for assumptions Silent treatment denies your partner a space for peace, it makes him/her restless, assuming what happened and what will happen.

11. It makes your partner feel rejected Someone who ignores you, rejects you. Silent treatment makes you ignore your spouse/partner, making him feel replaceable and unwanted.

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DATE: Sunday, December 22nd 2019

VENUE: The August 7th Memorial Park Conference Hall in Nairobi (opposite Railways bus stage, next to Co-Operative Bank House)

TIME: 2:30pm to 6pm.

THEME: SEX AND INTIMACY where we will address the sexual and emotional health of your marriage and how it affects how you two relate.

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