Wife material: How much pain and stupidity married women can tolerate in the name of love
By Diana Makokha | May 13th 2021
Kenyans feed on gossip about the relationships and extramarital entanglements of other people like it is nectar. And if the drama involves celebs, they suck on that nectar with the fury that a newly released convict unleashes on the first whore they bump into.
There a spiritual warfare going on right here against marriage. We are shocked when marriage works and stupidly excited when it fails. And you know what? Marriage is 90 per cent wife material, or so they say.
But what is this wife material, according to the African gospel? Here, wife material is about strength, which is measured by how much nonsense a woman can tolerate. The more pain and stupid things she put up with, the stronger she is. Like raising kids alone as hubby roams around, ejaculating all over the place like a randy goat. Basically, a strong woman never questions or “nags” her man, in whatever circumstances.
As a rule, wife material does not demand for a sweet marriage. She understands that matrimony is not a bed of roses, and accepts the biblical refrain that a foolish woman pulls down her house by her own hands, the clever one builds hers and stays. Cold or hot, they have to stay put. Stay for the kids and prove to society and in-laws that actually marriage works.
The saddest part of all this, is, as a woman, one needs to steadfastly pray and fast for his partner. Go to mountains and cry to the Lord to bless and change his cheating and philandering behaviour. Should always hold the sharp end of the knife, because? She is the woman and a married woman must be strong. Remember, it’s never a bed of roses.
Wife material is always there for her husband, giving moral and emotional support when his cheating catches up with him. Composed and firm, should never show a sign of weakness to the public while she shames the devil for leading boo into darkness. Yani son of Nahum knowingly carries his three legs out there to his usual sexploitations then when sh!t happens and he gets his egg on the face, wife is brought into the picture! For what? Moral support!
Wives never quit, however toxic and ugly the situation turns. With all the embarrassment and humiliation they might go through, they should never leave. Aende wapi? And if a child is sired when the devil cheats him not to use latex out there, the good wife will ‘accept’ the innocent baby and support her husband in supporting his baby mama to raise their bundle of joy. Sigh! They even are the ones who apparently send upkeep money to their husband’s mistresses.
During Chama meet ups, they share stories about their marriages and here is where some realise that what they might have gone through or going through is just a drop in the ocean. One would even say how these men go through a lot and it’s only unfair to judge them because of one sexscapade that ended badly.
And now that the law of nature disqualifies women from cheating, they should never even think of revenge. Because wife material is about keeping your legs shirt while the bastard you married waters his harem.
Wife material means you can scoop an Oscar award for putting on an ‘hey-I’m doing-so-damn-well’ act daily before society and family, with your love right there kissing you on your forehead, calling you his queen the strongest woman ever in earth. When deep inside you’re slowing giving in to stomach ulcers and depression. The previous night you cried oceans and rivers because son of your mother in law didn’t come home and you have no idea where he spend the effing night.
It always for better but mostly worse. So you pray, stay still, endure dry spell and suffer numerous walks of shame to the STI clinic time and again – always strong for husband, kids, in-laws, church and society.
It is a scam, this wife material. While you are smooching up to a nasty mother-in-law, bribing her with vitende, enduring dry spell and cowering from the pitiable stares of those who know your man is a serial cheat, non-wife material are having the time of their lives, hopping from lodging to lodging with your husband, eating and drinking his money, and lapping up Viagra laced sex.
Is it really worth the pains, troubles and heartbreaks?
Listen bro, your wife is not your relative
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