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Beauty and the beast: Why very cute chicks marry extremely ugly men
In the early 1990s, Julia Roberts was one of the richest female actresses in Hollywood. Apart from her staggering net worth, she was also considered the sexiest woman on the silver screen. Any movie she starred in became a blockbuster.
It therefore surprised her millions of fans worldwide when she met Lyle Lovett, a country musician on June 25, 1993, eloped and married the man three weeks later.
The most painful part was that Julia, an exceedingly beautiful woman, married a man with a face only a mother could love. Go ahead. Google him.
For ages, it’s always been a fascination for mankind how men with faces resembling the lunar surface end up seducing, bedding and marrying beautiful women.
Men with a disagreeable look, it appears, have ways of having misguided optimism about their own appearance and only hit on attractive women, and surprisingly, win them over.
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Speaking to The Nairobian, Summers Ogange, a customer care representative with a bus ticketing company, says men who are not good looking are more stable emotionally, financially and socially than drop-dead hunks.
“As a woman, the worst mistake you can ever make is to date those handsome men. Get a man with a ‘personal face’ and you know he is yours for the long haul. These beautiful boys are for young girls who want to floss on Instagram.”
Summers adds that one thing about men who aren’t handsome is that they are very aggressive.
“These type of men are very persistent, and that’s a quality that all mature women admire in men who are chasing after them. They are men who don’t have a long list of women chasing them, so when he is yours, he is yours for life,” giggles Summers.
Her comments are echoed by Laureen Oduor, a Kisumu-based businesswoman.
She says contrary to popular belief, most women rarely consider how good looking a man is before courtship. “One thing about men who aren’t good looking is that they have a lot of persistence and aggressiveness. They are hardworking too. But I am good looking so that neutralises.”
She says a big percentage of good looking men are usually lazy, good for nothing leeches who leech on women for daily sustenance.
“Very few good looking men are hardworking, the rest expect their good looks to get them a woman with money who can take care of them. So, I will go for a man who isn’t handsome any day.”
Most ugly men are usually able to lasso an attractive woman through unrelenting doggedness and overblown belief in their own sex appeal.
Psychologists believe that the persistence and aggressiveness many ugly men have during dating, academics spheres or business world is a coping mechanism.
According to Adam Adler, a renowned psychologist, all infants have a feeling of inferiority and inadequacy immediately they begin to experience the world.
“These early experiences, such as the need to gain their parents’ attention, shape the child’s unconscious and fictive goals. They give a child the need to strive towards rectifying the inferiority, a need to compensate for weakness by developing other strengths.”
A study published in the Psychological Science Journal indicates that this over-confidence causes pushes men to try their luck with a greater number of women because they are less likely to see them as unattainable.
Scientists think this may be down to an evolutionary trait which tricks men into overestimating the value of their looks to prevent them from missing a mating opportunity.
Clyde Mutsotso, who runs audit firm, Clyde and Associates, says he has witnessed many ugly men who ended up with the most beautiful woman in the room.
“In campus, there was this guy who wasn’t very good looking. And he knew it. But if you put him in a room with a woman, he would be charming, funny and make a woman feel special. Needless to say he only bedded the most beautiful women in campus,” recalls Mutsotso.
He adds that men with good looks have fragile egos and can’t take rejection from women very well, unlike ugly men who are used to rejection but will keep on prodding until they get the girl.
“These guys who aren’t handsome are used to rejection, they don’t fear failure. They compensate for the lack of good looks with aggressiveness, not only in dating, but other spheres of life. A not good so looking man will seduce 20 women, 18 will says no, but two will say yes. A handsome one will chase after five beautiful girls, and four will say no, but one will agree. So, the ugly guy has a higher chance of getting beautiful girls than a good looking man,” reasons Mutsotso.