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A possessive workmate

By | Feb 9th 2011 | 2 min read

Dear Greg,

I am really confused. I am attracted to my workmate, but I’m not sure he feels the same for me. My work involves meeting new people everyday and some ask for my phone number. However, the guy I’m interested in keeps telling me not to give out my number.

A few days ago, I talked to a client who wanted to supply us with stationery at a cheaper price and we agreed to do business with him. However, when the guy I’m interested in heard this, he seemed annoyed and told me the stationery guy had other motives. Do you think there is something cooking or could I be reading too much into his behaviour?

Please enlighten me on this Greg.

Anne, Nairobi.

Dear Ann,

Being attracted to your workmate can be dangerous, but it happens. It sounds like your chap is jealous, but instead of acting on his jealousy and telling you about his feelings, he tries to keep you from meeting new people, including clients. He is irrational, weak and could easily cost you your job.

My advice to you is: take action right now. Invite the fellow for tea and tell him you’re attracted to him as well, but he really ought to stop being so possessive of you, especially when you are not even in a relationship. Does he want one? If yes, then good, agree on boundaries.

If no, then great, because you will have cleared the air and life can go on.

Be careful, however, because he might be even more possessive when you’re dating and you will have to figure out whether it’s worth the hassle.

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