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Why fathers are shapers of society

By Njoki Karuoya | June 20th 2012

By Njoki Karuoya

Fatherhood is meant to be a special event. It proves you are virile and it provides you the opportunity to shape the life of a human being – into what you want. Children are like the modelling clay they play with in school. You can turn that clay into whatever shape you want, from a beautiful creature into a monster.

However, the most amazing thing about clay is that you can destroy whatever you created and start all over again, with the same ball of clay. Thus, if you have been absent father and you’ve ended up creating a monster, you can start all over again and begin to reshape that monster into a beautiful being.

The reverse similarly applies. There are fathers who started off as keen and active participators in the lives of their children but, for one reason or another, eventually slacked off, leaving the children, often in their teens, to their own devises, which can lead to disaster.

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Whether we like it or not, fathers play a significant role in a child’s life. They shape and mould a child’s character and largely influence how they view life in future, their aspirations, goals and relationships with the opposite sex and with children.


A father’s impact begins from birth and it is crucially important that men realise this; that whether they are in the child’s mother’s life or not, their direct relationship with a child is more important.

On Sunday, the world celebrated fathers, mainly the active ones with a positive influence on their children and, thus, the society at large. For those whose influence has been negative or negligent, it’s not too late to decide to change that. When the wise men said, mtoto umleavyo ndivyo akuavyo (a child picks the traits they were taught when growing up), they knew what they were saying. Commit to change the face of the future by shaping the present now.

To continue in the spirit of honouring fathers, here are a few poems to buoy to celebrate fatherhood:

What makes a Dad

God took the strength of a mountain

The majesty of a tree

The warmth of a summer sun

The calm of a quiet sea

The generous soul of nature

The comforting arm of night

The wisdom of the ages

The power of the eagle’s flight

The joy of a morning in spring

The faith of a mustard seed

The patience of eternity

The depth of a family need

Then God combined these qualities

When there was nothing more to add

He knew His masterpiece was complete

And so He called it...


— Anonymous


A Father Means....

A Father means so many things...

A understanding heart

A source of strength and of support

Right from the very start

A constant readiness to help

In a kind and thoughtful way

With encouragement and forgiveness

No matter what comes your way

A special generosity and always affection too

A Father means so many things

When he’s a man like you...

— Anonymous


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