We are now the parents, and, unfortunately, too many did not learn from our parents’ mistakes....
Eight good reasons men leave women they love; number seven will shock
It is a crazy world for women. You assume you are in a happy relationship, then one day, you wake up and realise that your boo left -- bila notice! Being men, they leave when we least expect and without any explanation.
We women have always assumed that men leave because they have found someone else or someone better than we are. But I am coming to learn that that, to borrow that overworked misogynist cliché, is an old wives tale.
Reason 1: Ego wars
From what I have gathered, WE are the problem and men leave us, not because they have a better offer on the table but simply because we suck. We suck at massaging their egos. We suck because we insist on sharing control, which in their view is a preserve of the male species – a species that is singularly incapable of controlling its money and lust.
Reason 2: Too busy for his needs
- READ MORE
- Journalist murder: Was it a love triangle?
- Ten types of city wives; which one is your dream wife?
- Revealed: WhatsApp, Facebook groups where Kenyans meet, chitchat and bang
- After the captivating Bukusu darling story, Asian family declare deep love for Meru women
Men, I hear, leave us because we are too busy to cater for their needs, which is a bit confusing because all they seem to want to do is lounge on the sofa, eat boiled meat, strew dirt all over the place and watch violent movies. Needs? What needs?
Reason 3: We suck on in bed
These men leave us because either we suck on in bed, or we are too busy with sorting out the babies to give them a tumble in the hay. This, again, is a bit confusing because these are the same men who crawl home drunk, tired and wrung dry by the some filthy whore they dragged out of a pub and led into a cheap lodging with filthy sheets.
Reason 4: Too fat
They blame us for being unable to get it up because we are fat yada-yada-yada. But even when they find women who are younger, with firm stomachs, thighs and tits, they still can’t get it up. Would they be choking on blue pills out there if we were the problem?
Reason 5: Personal hygiene
I have also had it said that we drive men away because we don’t take our personal hygiene seriously. You know, that kujiachilia thing. For real? The same men who would rewind torn boxers for three days if they could get away with it? The same men who insist on fermenting the day’s collection of germs, cigarette and alcohol breathe all night long? The same men who have to be nagged to trim their toenails and shave their armpits and pubic hair? Men whose bodies have been turned to blabber because of eating and drinking carelessly?
Reason 6: When she's too possessive
There are rumours, too, that our men leave without warning because we are possessive. That those 112 missed calls and 26 texts of “where are you?” “Whom are you with?” “Can I talk to that person?” “What are you doing?” “What time will you be home?” are what drive away good men.
But what are women supposed to do when grown ass men insist on behaving like small children? It is midnight and a man who swore to protect his wife and raise his children is feeding mosquitoes, imbibing beer laced with mchele, preparing to have illicit sex without a protection and blow his entire salary in three hours. What is the woman to do? Nag that bastard to get his stupid ass back home, of course!
Reason 7: Too independent
But it gets funnier. Men will leave a woman because she is “independent”. Note, these are the same men who don’t want to be nagged by a woman who needs their company. These are the same men who don’t want to be asked daily for money to buy food, clothes, get the hair done, etc, and who can talk for hours about how strong their mothers and grandmothers are or were. What do you want? A doormat or a wife?
Reason 8: Women are “toxic”
Finally, I gather men leave because women are “toxic”. Granted there are thousands of women – and men – who are mental. But the majority of women described as toxic aren’t. They are merely strong enough to wag a finger at nonsense.
You can’t be coming home late daily, be consistently unable to fulfill your obligations as a husband or dad, treat your wife with disrespect and not expect your wife to raise hell.
Blaming a woman for “lefting” is fashionable. But if you dig beneath the surface, men who leave are weak, irresponsible and don’t have the balls to wife a strong woman.
Keep walking Johnny, and good riddance.