There comes a time when all you feel about yourself is a lack of usefulness. It is within this same period that feelings of underachievement and being bypassed by life come knocking.
If you resonate with these feelings, you probably know too well how it makes you lack self-appreciation. However, we cannot thrive by sticking to this routine. Here is how you can get above the waters.
- Affirm yourself in front of a mirror
Look at your image and critically analyze it. What exactly do you see? Amidst the scars, eye bags from sleep deprivation and the intangible hurt you’ve gone through, a beauty beholds. Cry if you want, then wipe those tears away. Tell yourself how beautiful, strong, empowered and brave you are.
You can even add in other positive affirmations as per your liking. After this therapy, you have to ensure that you see yourself for who you are and not how other people brand you. As you go through this soliloquy, notice how you move to a point of beginning to appreciate yourself.
- Revisit your journal and walk down memory lane
We tend to show a lack of self-appreciation when we forget the hurdles we overcame. As someone who keeps a journal and records the things they are grateful for on a daily basis, this activity is easier. Read and meditate upon the blessings that you have, counting them one by one.
In no time, you will realize that there is so much that you have gone through that makes you deserving of a pat on the back. Some of the challenges which may be tougher than your current situation have been overcome. You will definitely get encouraged to appreciate your current season and rise up.
- Recheck your vision board and see how far you have come
Every time we lose sight of our goals, we begin doubting ourselves and the path we are taking. Remind yourself that you are a conqueror by going back to the basics. Recheck your vision board and assess where you are, where you have come from and confirm where you are going. Once you see how many of your goals you have achieved, you will get a self-esteem boost and a drive to push on to achieve more.
- Contact someone you once helped
We sometimes need some affirmation from other people and what better way to fill this gap than by hearing from someone who you once aided. There is a possibility that the person will praise you and once again thank you for how well you treated them and assisted them at their point of need. If you were battling with feelings of worthlessness, the sweet memory of being there for someone else gives you an assurance that you are useful and deserve some appreciation.
- Shut up the negative self-critic in your head
You may have achieved a lot but still continue to beat yourself up mentally. This enemy of progress constantly drags anyone who gives it room down. Learn to control your inner voice and cut yourself some slack. Choose to focus on what you have already achieved and any impact you have made, however small it is. Through this, you celebrate your small and big wins without feeling like you are underachieved.
- Buy yourself a gift
Surprise yourself by buying something special just for you. No, this is not a selfish move as you may be thinking. We spend so much money in the bid to please others but spend so little on rewarding ourselves. Rewarding yourself with a gift or treat is a sure way of making yourself feel better.
- Seek a support group
Connect with a group of people who spread positive energy and encourage you. This can be a date after work or simply opening up and communicating your feelings to your family members. They will respond by making you feel better and sharing your burden.
If you feel like you do not appreciate yourself, know that it is not the end of the world. Strive to wade through these low moments as they limit your creativity and productivity. The higher the self-esteem, the better.
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