With the advent of social media, you can keep tabs on other people’s lives daily. Whereas many of us are exposing our Photoshopped lives, you can’t help but feel left out. The current rise of social media depression has been caused by envy. It’s new-age envy so deep that we wonder how to be happy amidst everyone else’s joyous escapades. Here’s how to find happiness when everyone else’s life seems better than yours.
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- Acknowledge where you currently are
Let’s face it; we live in very competitive times. To make matters worse, the world is everyone’s benchmark making us compare ourselves left, right and centre. Even as you see the people around you seemingly flourish, know it can be true or false. With today’s filtered lives, it’s hard to know what people have hidden in their closets.
Love your time and season. Critically look into your life and embrace what you are currently going through. Being extremely carried away by the wave of others limits you from enjoying the time you have when you concentrate on other peoples’ achievements.
- Remember that everyone is on an independent journey
People have different dreams and the motivation to see them to fruition. Before you wallow into self-pity, remind yourself that you are a unique individual with distinct wishes and a life path. This gives you responsibility for your own decisions. It also asserts you, reminding you that you should be content with what you have. This ultimately gives you lots of joy.
- Avoid looking outside for motivation and answers
It is easy to feel the outside world crashing on you as you see every Instagram lifestyle post. Escape the trap of being put under external pressure in your own life. You can choose to unfollow the people who make you feel like you are not good enough. Directing your energy inwards is a sure way of appreciating yourself and achieving satisfaction. It ensures that you are the persona of your life’s script. Not them.
- Focus on your targets and not others’ expectations
Have you been pressured into pursuing a Master’s programme or buying the latest iPhone release because you are expected to? The question is, by whom? When you look at other peoples’ happy lives, you may plunge into unnecessary pressure to keep up in a bid to fit in. Much as everyone wants to fit in, you are bound to experience a serious burnout. Free yourself from such chains and focus on your goals.
- You are not lagging behind
Be self-compassionate and remind yourself that you are not running late in anything. Age limits are a societal standard that closes people’s minds. You will find happiness in knowing that you still stand a chance to achieve this or that at your own time.
- Cherish the small real circles than virtual social media
It is common for us to lose sight of the treasures we have in the people around us, like our family, as we focus far outside that circle. Cherishing moments with your close ones creates a bond and memories that are invaluable. You end up deriving more joy from this as opposed to outside influence.
- Do something positive for a less fortunate person
Truth is, one man’s meat is another’s poison. You may think you are having it rough while there is someone who would want your life. Go out and be a positive impact in the life of someone who is less fortunate. Visit a hospital or a children’s home. Aside from also impacting you positively, doing this will make you appreciate what you think you hate about your life.
Happiness is an inward feeling that it transmitted outward. Remember that, to be happy, you need to derive it from within without looking for it outside. So, embrace your life today!
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