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Reason woman charges boyfriend Sh.5000 every time he stays out until 4am

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It can be difficult living with your partner when you've got different schedules and social lives.

If one of you stays out really late, it can keep the other person up - which isn't fun at all. It's especially annoying when one person complains about it, and then does it themselves.

Which is why one woman has revealed she charges her boyfriend Sh.5000 if he doesn't make it home after a night out by 4am.

She explained that she and her partner have been living together for two years.

Despite being a "natural homebody", she'd developed a drinking problem when they first started dating, due to the death of her mother.

She wrote: "After moving in together, I was still wrestling with alcoholism and stayed out a handful of times (about five times in a year) until 3am.

"Frequently, I'd irresponsibly allow my phone to die while I continued drinking. Every time, my boyfriend expressed that he hated this."

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Now it seems to be the boyfriend that has picked up the same habit, and often stays out to between 3-5am, giving her little information about his whereabouts.

She said it's not so much the problem of him going out as it was the fact that he would get angry when she stayed out late - and she stopped doing it for his benefit.

Her solution? A curfew and a fine if either person breaks it.

"If either one us aren't home 4am, we have to give the other Sh.5000 and no one can be angry," she explained.

"My reasoning is that he's either going to tire of paying the Sh.5000 and come home on time or afford me the same level of understanding for occasionally staying out until the bars close."

She asked people whether she was being unreasonable and most replied saying that it's not a good way to deal with relationship problems - and indicates wider issues.

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"Your lifestyles are not meshing," replied one person.

"This 5K thing is a bad idea, it sounds like it's going to breed resentment, not actually encourage him to get home on time.

"You don't seem to be able to properly communicate your feelings to each other, or he just doesn't care how you feel," another commented.

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