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It might take some time to fully recover from an abusive and controlling relationship but one thing is for sure, no matter how long it takes you, you will overcome and be yourself again. Life will give you a second chance.
More often, abusive relationships greatly affect our emotional stability and also self-esteem. However, going through this phase and coming out successful might be one of the hardest things to do. It requires patience with oneself.
You can move on with your life and feel happy again, even if it doesn’t seem possible at the start. Here are some steps that can guide your healing:
1. Recognize what happened
There is some power in acceptance. In fact, acceptance is the first step towards healing. If your partner ever physically hurt you, called you names, made you fear for your personal safety, or forced sexual activity upon you, it was probably abuse. Name it. This will help you understand why you feel the way you do.
2. Congratulate yourself
You might wonder whether there is anything to be happy or smile about. You may still feel helpless and overwhelmed, but take a minute to feel proud that you are doing something about improving your life. The biggest step is over, and you freed yourself from the grips of an abusive relationship.
3. Cut the abuser out of your life
However strong the temptation is, do not contact him or her. Do not check his social media. Remove objects and pictures that trigger unpleasant emotions and memories. Ease back on friendships with people who hang out with your ex.
4. Treat yourself
Do some things that you enjoy, both little and big, to get the healing process started. Give yourself a break. Whether it's a hot bath, a TV binge, or a long vacation, it's important to allow yourself little extras and big rewards during this healing process.
5. Seek professional help
Consider seeing a therapist or seeking out a support group for victims of partner violence or assault. Hearing the stories of others who have been through similar experiences will make you feel less alone and will provide you with helpful tips, insights, and advice on how to move on.