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Hey, allow me set your sex agenda

My Man
 Aringo with his wife Ruth.

Who is Ken Aringo?

I am a Kenyan. A husband and a proud father of three (two boys and one girl, aged between five and 11 years).

What drives you?

A passion to influence the next generation – youth.

 You wear many hats — priest, motivational speaker, husband, dad and now author. How do you balance all these?

What makes it possible to juggle all my God-given roles/duties is doing what must be done when it should be done.

Let’s talk about your book, The Software of Sex. How would you summarise the message in one sentence?

The Software of Sex is a book about sex in our thinking/minds. How you define sex determines how you treat it.

 Sex is considered taboo in our society, what motivated you to discuss it openly?

The very reason you’ve mentioned — Taboo subject! That was my motivation, to break away from the norm and begin a discussion that is useful and yet shameful.

As a priest, in your counselling sessions, do you encounter minors who engage in sex?

Yes I do many times.

 Would you say there is a course for alarm in the rise of sexual activity among minors?

Sure. There is every reason to be alarmed because we are pretending as if all is well, yet a whole generation is being put in harm’s way and soon the place of the family institution will be eroded. Sexual activity among teens also reflects what our society has become because children do what they see adults doing.

 Some schools of thought advocate that the youth be given condoms. Do you think there is still a chance we can instill morals in our children or are condoms the way to go?

I have never been a believer that condoms are a solution for tackling this social ill. Why? Giving condoms to minors is a clear statement that we (parents and church) have failed in our duty as instructed in Proverbs 22:6. For me it’s a NO! NO!

 You are a father of three. Do you discuss sex with your children?

Yes I do.

 Putting together a book which involved a lot of research and time away from the family must be emotionally draining. How did you manage to strike a balance to ensure your presence was still felt at home?

Very true. This book stole my parenting time but I was very clear in my head and I communicated to my immediate family that it was a sacrifice worth making. So far, I have seen them (my wife and children) celebrate this achievement with me....It is a subject many pastors give a wide berth. Finally, I ensured that my home time was qualitative rather than quantitative during this demanding task of book writing.

You are also the founder of Preserving Human Dignity (PHD) Africa Youth Ministry. What is its core mandate?

PHD ministry exists to raise a generation of young people who love God completely, love themselves correctly and love others compassionately. In short, a human being is to be treated with dignity that it deserves from the rest of the created beings.

You have been talking to students on sexuality for almost two decades. Why do you think it is still a foreign concept in our education system and has never been adopted formally into the system?

I am privileged to be one of the consistent voices in Kenyan schools and colleges student evangelism and mentorship. I pray that supportive structures can be put in place to promote discussion on relevant and contemporary issues that affect the youth today.

 How do you unwind?

Reading and enjoying Worship Music

 What is your advice to parents, especially those with pre-teens and teens on sexuality?

Keep your eyes open, your ears alert and your heartbeat in check (prepare your shock absorbers). Empower yourselves by reading relevant materials on this subject.

What is your parting shot? Sex is like fire. In its rightful place, it brings warmth but out of its enclosure, it burns.

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