Score points on first date
By -Jennifer Karina | August 3rd 2013
By Jennifer Karina
A girl’s first date comes with excitement. Many are never sure of how to conduct themselves on this special date. Here are some few useful tips on how to navigate this special day:
First impressions are lasting impressions. How you present yourself on the first date will determine the direction the relationship will take.
This first date is a time of getting to feel the person, interact, test the chemistry between yourselves, assess his character and habits to determine whether you would accept a second date. Many guys decide whether a girl is girlfriend or wife material on the first date. If you want to make a good impression, here are some tips;
Are you interested in the date or do you just want to prove something to yourself and others? Do you see it as an opportunity to flirt and paste on social media the news…”Guess who I was with?” Do not commit to a date unless you are sincere about your motives.
Choice of venue
Allow the guy to pick the venue and what both of you will eat and drink. Be punctual and avoid getting a ride from him. Avoid ordering expensive drinks, it is not cool as some girls may think; it works in the negative and certainly is a put-off for the guy.
Have some back up money to settle the bills, but under no circumstances should you offer to pay for it. Exercise good table manners like not speaking with a full mouth.
Dress to impress
Dress moderately and be comfortable in whatever you wear. Do not show too much flesh, leg and cleavage as it may send a wrong message. Over-exposing yourself on the first date will simply be saying, ‘come and get me!’ That is a sign of desperation and you may come off as a sex object. He may enjoy the view but will not take you seriously.
Be a good listener
This is your opportunity to get to know the guy better as you enter into his world. Avoid taking charge and talking too much. Avoid sharing personal and intimate details about yourself, your previous relationships and family. Avoid asking personal questions such as “what went wrong with your relationship?”
Have a fun and light conversation on general matters like hobbies career, ambitions and current affairs.
Remember on a first date all you are doing is engaging on a surface level and talking about details of your past relationships is not impressive.
If your relationship grows and you have subsequent dates, then you can share.
Be honest about yourself
Under no circumstances should you lie about who you are. Be honest about yourself, your passions, interests and ambitions.
If you are hoping for the second date, it will take no science to discover that you lied about these things.
Be polite and do not criticise his opinion. You can give complements without exaggeration.
Be sure to be relaxed, maintain a smile and eye contact and do not be the first to make a move. Allow the guy to be in charge.
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