Our rings tell a cheeky story
From a two-man committee, Tony Mochama and Sharon Lucas managed to piece together a private chic wedding that only took three days to plan and 24 hours to inform family and friends. They spoke to ALLAN OLINGO about their big day
From the onset, it was deemed to be a private and simple wedding, a stark contrast of his social lifestyle.
The ever-giggling Tony justifies their reason for a simple and easy ceremony to having better use for money instead of otherwise splashing it on a grand wedding. Tony Mochama and Sharon Lucas exchange vows.
Tony Mochama and Sharon Lucas exchange vows.
"Instead of splashing it on the wedding, we felt it best to redirect the money into renovating our house in Ngong," he said.
Tony, a practicing atheist and Sharon a catholic opted to cement their union at the Attorny General’s chambers.
"Convincing him to do a church wedding would have been an impossible task. So the AG’s chambers were a perfect compromise," she admits.
"The AG’s is the most unromantic place to have a wedding. There are no vows but legal threats! They explain to you the crimes you should never commit such as bigamy. I did not even get to have a ‘kiss the bride’ moment. The legal jargon used there is just a turn off," joked Tony.
As soon as the couple exchanged their rings, a roar went off outside the building… only to realise it was university students demonstrating.
"For a moment I thought the crowds were watching us but only to realise it was the normal hooliganism of the students spoiling my long awaited day," explained Tony.
Albeit the bemoaning of the civil wedding environment, Sharon says her wedding day was a small, intimate and very private affair, which she enjoyed.
Tony on the other hand had a very different look at his big day noting that the magisterial touch at the AGs office caught his attention.
"The officers at the Sheria house were not even smiling. They made it look so formal for a moment I got scared. I also liked the fact that we got married at exactly 11am on the 11th day of November, 2011," says Tony.
In any marriage, bride price is a key element that enables in-laws to meet, but in Tony’s and Sharon’s marriage things were a little bit different.
"Given that we come from different cultures, we had to do away with bride price."
"See, in Sharon’s culture, she is supposed to pay me the pride price, while in our Gusii culture, I am supposed to take it to her parents. So we decided to cancel it out," adds Tony amidst laughter.
Tony adds that if he had thought it out, he would have just taken dowry to Sharon’s parents then wait for her to bring it back to him.
Sharon says that the proposal was a big surprise and she actually did not know Tony would pull such a romantic move.
"We were en-route to Dar es Salaam for holiday and while airborne, Tony asked one of the air hostess for champagne upon which he dropped the ring in the glass. I finished taking the champagne and gave back the glass to the air hostess. Tony requested for the glass back and told me I hadn’t finished my fill and only then did I realise there was a ring in it. I gladly accepted," she says.
A nervous Tony on the other hand feared Sharon had swallowed the engagement ring. "For a moment I feared we were going to have an emergency. It was with relief when she potted the ring," adds Tony.
Interestingly Tony reveals that he smelted a gold bangle from Sharon’s ex boyfriend to make the wedding rings.
"When Sharon’s ex boyfriend gave her a gold ring while we were dating, I knew I had to get back at him. So I smelted it and made these pure gold rings. It was really a nice feeling," he cheekily divulges.
Marrying from a different culture has its own challenges, but Tony says he did not face any problem from his family.
Sharon on the other hand says part of her family were skeptical in the initial stages of their dating, but after five years of dating, things changed and almost everyone embraced Tony.
"I am happy that my parents and siblings were at our wedding. This showed I had their blessings and they are really close to Tony."
Even so, marriage was the last thing on Tony’s mind. "It was only through her ultimatums that I got serious. She told me that come January 2012, we were going to be either single or married and I opted for the latter," said Tony.
As is every girl’s wish, Sharon would love to have a church wedding but all this depends on Tony. "I would love to convince him to attend our wedding ceremony as a groom where a man of God will officiate. It is still my dream."
How about their honeymoon? "I took her to Kisii. It is the most beautiful place. We decided to have a three-stage honeymoon that will end in mid December. We will tour the country and finalise it in Mombasa,"
"We chose to have our honeymoon in Kenya because of its lovely and romantic sites. Ask yourself why tourists pay thousand of dollars to visit our country?" poses Sharon.
How about children? Tony smiles at this question letting Sharon respond.
"Yes we will definitely have them. It’s my wish to have children with my looks and Tony’s brains. He is a very smart and intelligent guy," says Sharon.
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