Benjamin Zulu: You cannot be a Christian and a side chick at the same time

You cannot claim to be a Christian yet you are a side chick. This is according to Life Coach and Counselling Psychologist Benjamin Zulu.

Having built a name for himself through advising couples on matters relationships, Zulu reiterated that fornication and faith cannot mix.

Through a post on social media, he recalled one particular case where a lady confessed to falling out with a sponsor and started praying to God for another one.

“Who bewitched this generation? They're going to church on Sundays while leaving men in their houses who they're not married to. They're giving money in church which they sold their bodies to get by sleeping with people's husbands.

“They're 'pushing' with men and when they get babies and are abandoned they start questioning why God 'allowed them to go through all that.' As if they consulted God about any of it,” he wrote.

Zulu went ahead to quote a verse in the Bible that speaks to those who honour God with their mouths but their deeds send out a different message.

There has been a lot of talk about secret lovers or mpango wa kandos as they are commonly referred to and in November 2021, President Uhuru Kenyatta signed into law a bill that would see secret lovers get locked out of their partners’ wealth in case of death.

The Bill sought to amend the definition of the word dependant so as to lock out “illegitimate” spouses from inheriting the property of a deceased person.

In the new law, a dependant is defined as “the spouse and children of the deceased, whether or not maintained by the deceased immediately prior to his death”.

Others, who are considered as dependants, are the deceased's parents, step-parents, grandparents, grandchildren, step-children, children whom the deceased had taken into his family as his own, brothers, sisters, half-brothers and half-sisters, who were being maintained by the deceased immediately prior to his death.

The law, however, gives room for the nonconventional dependants, including secret lovers, to fight for their rights if they feel aggrieved by the decision to lock them out of the deceased’s wealth.