Lady, so you're pregnant. It's natural to wonder if it's a baby boy or girl. If you've given birth to a bunch of boys before, or vice versa, then you'll possibly want and hope for a change. Anyway, who wouldn't want? Knowing the gender of your unborn child will give you a head start on choosing a suitable name, and asking for and receiving gifts. But have you ever thought of the downside?
And now you're pregnant. The gender blues have come in their train. If you can afford it, go for the ultrasound--it's your best bet. Otherwise, never ever think of the foetus’ gender, prefer one gender over the other, or bet with your hubby concerning the gender. Read on why wishful thinking or gender prediction is a bold incisive no-no!
"Masculine women and feminine men"; "I'm a man trapped in a woman's body"; and "I'm a woman trapped in a man's body." These are the most thought-provoking gender-related statements that I've ever read. Why, pray, there have been sad case studies!
The most notable case study is possibly that of the late American male teenager Gwen Amber Rose Araujo. The teenager's birth name was Eddie Araujo. Araujo, a trans-woman, has since been immortalized in the 2006 film titled A Girl Like Me: The Gwen Araujo Story. Araujo's assigned sex was male but identified "herself" as female and sought a sex change. She was a drag queen and wore makeup. Araujo was murdered in 2002 after her friends, who knew her as Lida, realized that she had male organs. You guessed it right. When Araujo's mom was carrying Araujo's pregnancy, she thought that her unborn child was a girl. Unfortunately, it turned out to be a boy. Does this ring bells?
In Kenya, Audrey Mbugua, whose birth name is Andrey Mbugua, has plumbed the depths of being a trans-woman. Audrey survived transphobia and suicide. In her own words, "she" was a woman trapped in a man's body. There's nothing to suggest that her mother thought that she carrying a baby girl before she gave birth to a boy. However, is it coincidental speculation that, one, she was the apple of her father's eyes; and, two, she had two older brothers--while carrying her pregnancy, her mother could have thought or reconciled herself with the fact that she was expecting a boy seeing that she had already given birth to boys before? OK, the Audrey case is a theory but it holds water!
Pregnant ladies beware! According to research, a mother's thoughts, emotions, and feeling affect her unborn child, especially after the sixth month. Simply have ultrasound if you want to know the gender of your unborn child. Otherwise, any thought or gender prediction will lead to gender disappointment or, worse still, dooming the future of the unborn child.