Sylvia Wangui Macharia says she has suffered great mental anguish due to the cruelty exhibited by her husband, Anthony Nyaga Nyaga accuses Sylvia of among things, verbal abuse, threatening his life and “keeping poor hygiene” Sylvia now lives with her parents in Runda, having left the husband last December

A bank executive is seeking dissolution of her marriage, accusing her husband of cruelty and desertion.

In a petition filed at the Milimani Law Courts, Sylvia Wangui Macharia says she has suffered great mental anguish due to the cruelty exhibited through verbal abuse and on social media by her husband, Anthony Nyaga.

But in his replying affidavit, Nyaga accuses Sylvia of among things, verbal abuse, threatening his life and “keeping poor hygiene.”

The couple is seeking divorce due to irreconcilable differences.

Sylvia is a banker, while Nyaga is a sales manager at a multinational technology company.

In his affidavit, Nyaga denies being unkind to the wife he accuses of “starving him” before wilfully walking out of their matrimonial house in Westlands.

Sylvia now lives with her parents in Runda, having left the husband last December.

Nyaga blames Sylvia for the rocky marriage and describes her as “nagging, impatient, irrational and abusive.”

“That the petitioner (Sylvia) has not disclosed that she is the one who broke the marriage up by denying the respondent (Nyaga) his conjugal rights and limited him to lovemaking only when she thought it to ‘reward’ him as per her wishes which in any case was almost non-existent over the years despite the coming of the second child” Nyaga says in his replying affidavit.

The couple solemnised their marriage on July 8, 2011 at Oak Place in Ridgeways. They have two children, both girls, aged six and one.

Sylvia accuses the husband of persistently filing untrue reports with the police at the Muthangari Police Station. Nyaga allegedly reported to the police that his wife had threatened to “kill him.”

Sylvia says in her affidavit that “the respondent falsely and maliciously accused the petitioner of threatening his life and being physical against him, and at one point caused the police to pick her up at her then place of work, causing her a lot of mental and psychological anguish, humiliation and putting her job at risk.”

In 2015, Nyaga went to the station and made an assault report, which was recorded under OB 12/03/05/2015. He told police that his wife attacked him with blows while he lay on the sofa following a verbal disagreement.

Sylvia claims her husband would stop talking to her for several months, during which time she had no clue about his whereabouts. As a sales manager, Nyaga frequently travels locally and abroad.

 

“The respondent would have several episodes of staying out late into the night or not coming home at all without communication to her. Other times the respondent would throw wild parties in the house and entertain persons unknown to her in the matrimonial home without her knowledge or consent. Many times she would come home from work to find the house in disarray and wine glasses with women’s lipstick in the kitchen, which he would deliberately leave there to spite her, causing her severe mental stress,” says Sylvia.

She accuses Nyaga of squandering Sh300,000 he withdrew from their joint account. The money was to cater for the needs of their firstborn child.

“The incidents of financial mismanagement and lack of communication and transparency by the respondent has further caused a lot of friction in the marriage and made it impossible to secure for the family and the very young children’s future,” states Sylvia, adding that the union has irretrievably broken down.

But Nyaga denies misusing money, arguing if a joint account existed, the consent of his wife is a requisite before cash withdrawal. He says the children’s account is solely operated by him without Sylvia’s contributions.

Anthony claims his wife’s anger is partly to blame for the breakdown in communication. He denies hosting parties in their house.

The salesman insists that only on two occasions were parties held in the house to mark the birthday of the firstborn and arrival of the second child. During the events, close family members from both sides attended, says Nyaga.

“The respondent denies being cruel, exceptionally depraved, nor being the cause of the petitioner’s own alleged mental or physical stress or any other suffering at all. The respondent avers that the petitioner’s own conduct of mistrust, jealousy and wilful neglect of the marriage and the children have led to her mental situation,” maintains Nyaga.

He says the wife, in the company of their children, left the house under the pretence of going to visit her parents. A few days later, he learnt of the divorce petition filed on January 22, 2018.

Nyaga claims that barely one year after the marriage was solemnised, Sylvia became disrespectful and cruel to the point of threatening his life and for the above reasons, their marriage had irretrievably broken down.