By Eve Woman
A few days ago, some policemen came to our house demanding to know my husband’s whereabouts. He was not in and he has been in hiding since then. I know where he is, and the police are threatening to arrest me for failing to disclose information on his whereabouts. While this is stressful, what is even more disturbing is the fact that he is being sought for defiling and impregnating an underage girl.
I don’t know what to make out of this, and I don’t think I can trust him anymore. How I can handle this stressful situation.
{Laura}
Your take
Laura, this is a tricky situation. You need to sit down with your husband and have a serious discussion to establish the truth. If he defiled and impregnated a minor, that is a serious offence. You need to report him to the police immediately otherwise, you will be guilty of conspiring with a criminal. Think soberly and do the right thing.
(Andrew Chaplin)
This is a tough one. Much as he may have committed a heinous crime, he is still your hubby. So you need to stand by him and pray for him that all will be well. I am sure you are the only person he can lean on.
(Ouma Ragumo)
Rape and defilement are serious offences under the Sexual Offences Act. Whether you like it or not, your husband is a dangerous person and he needs to be locked up. Before you think of covering him, remember he could also defile your children.
(Onyango Outha)
If your husband is indeed guilty, you need to turn him in. The sooner you do so the better for you and your children. Painful as it maybe, clearly, there is no future with this man.
(Daniel Musembi)
You may be hiding your husband because you love him, but you are also risking your life. He can run but he cannot hide. The sooner he turns himself in, the better for everybody.
(Ben Shikuku)
There are few options for you on this issue. You need to hand over your hubby to the police like any law-abiding citizen would do. I know you love him dearly, but there are no two ways about it. You may choose to forgive him later but for now, he needs to be locked up.
(Tasma Charles)
Like it or not, you’re sharing a bed with an enemy. To be on the safe side, go to the police immediately and report him.
(Gerald Fundi)
My take
Laura,
If your husband were innocent, he would not be hiding. The problem with men who have affairs with underage girls is that they don’t get enough of them and keep looking for more. This means that even if he gets off the hook on this one, he is likely to find himself in such trouble again. This is not the kind of person you want to get into a long-term relationship with.
You are right; you cannot trust him anymore — with yourself, your siblings and children because you don’t know what he is capable of doing next.
The police have no legal power to force anyone to disclose the whereabouts of a suspect. So if they are threatening you, they just want to intimidate you into handing him over.
If you do not know where he is, there is nobody who can force you to smoke him out from wherever his hideout is.
{Taurus}
