The female G-spot – hit or myth?

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Is this elusive erogenous zone all in our heads, or a case of target practice? Siobhan McNally ask the experts

Down a bit… er, right a bit… no, no, no, up a bit. Oh for goodness’ sake, I’ll do it myself.

Whether it’s locating the milk in the fridge, or finding your G-spot, sometimes it’s just easier to get up and do it yourself rather than wait for your bloke who’s been staring at the contents for the past 10 minutes.

Now I don’t know about you, but surely it can’t be that hard to find something that’s claimed to be roughly the same size and shape of a Tic Tac.

I mean, it’s not like it moves around or goes out for a walk, is it?

So either many men suffer from fridge blindness in the bedroom department or – as I suspect – the G-spot really doesn’t exist.

Personally, I think the myth of this female paradise is one perpetuated by the porn industry to flog its fantasy of explosive sexual arousal, and no amount of rummaging around trying to find this mystical location will result in anything other than groin strain or hand cramps.

But it’s a controversial subject, one that gets us all excited every time a new scientific claim is made.

The Grafenberg Spot, or G-spot, is named after German gynaecologist Ernst Grafenberg, who claimed to have found it 60 years ago.

Since then, barely a year has gone by without new claims about this elusive erogenous zone being discovered.

Or, as King’s College London experts declared two years ago after their investigation of 1,800 women, it’s all a complete fallacy.

But yet again the subject of the Big O has come under close scrutiny as US gynaecologists now claim to have found the G-spot during the postmortem of an 83-year-old woman.

A small area of tissue measuring 8.1mm by 3.6mm by 1.5mm, said to be rich in nerve endings, was the cause for their excitement.

However, TV presenter and sex expert Tracey Cox is sceptical.

“We still don’t know if the G-spot exists,” she says. “This was an area found on a dead body that was bluish and grape-like – but how do we know that it felt pleasurable when stimulated?

“There is no doubt that the area on the front vaginal wall, about one to two inches inside a woman, is ultra sensitive to stimulation, but we don’t know if there’s a particular spot.

“It’s also rather difficult to access – certainly by anything that men were born with!

“But there are sex toys that make it easier to reach the area, which when stimulated gives you a wanting-to-pee sensation that’s soon replaced by strong erotic feelings.

“But in the end, it’s something women either like, or don’t.”

So in actual fact, even if the G-spot does exist, the chance of your bloke finding it during rumpy-pumpy is highly unlikely, which means there’s a lot of ladies out there faking it.

One woman who’s in no doubt it exists is mum-of-one Ali Rayden, 42. “Of course the female G-spot exists,” she declares.

“My husband and I view mine as a very good friend. Perhaps some women pretend it doesn’t exist because they want their partner to devote hours on end trying to find it.

“The man who first located mine was a particularly clever boyfriend called Nigel.

"I have a hazy memory of telling him I loved him for the first time shortly afterwards.

"I actually love the mystery that surrounds the G-spot. If sex was straightforward it wouldn’t be nearly as much fun.

“As for those who do succeed in locating theirs, I think it’s one of nature’s most heavenly gifts.

“It really is a fast-track to a level of bliss you simply don’t get any other way. Now, where’s that husband of mine gone?”

Theories are rampant as to the actual anatomy of this so-called “sex button”.

Some believe it’s just an extension of the clitoris, which makes them sound rather like present-day members of the Flat Earth Society, while the Italians claim to have found physiological evidence using ultrasound scans.

They reported that women who have orgasms during intercourse have an area of thicker tissue in their nether regions, although this could just be where Silvio Berlusconi’s girls stash their bunga bunga.

The mystery surrounding the G-spot makes it sound like sex is a ­two-tier system, some women are getting “blissed out”, while the rest of us just have the washing up to look forward to afterwards.

“Women who have front wall orgasms say they feel completely different and that they are more intense,” says Tracey.

“But whether it results in a simply mind-blowing orgasm or just nice feelings for you, it’s definitely worth exploring.”

But here’s my final reason for claiming that the female G-spot doesn’t exist...

Frankly, if this guaranteed button to instantaneous orgasmic heaven was, in fact, real – we women would never even leave our bedrooms.

A face-to-face, sitting position enables the penis to stimulate the front wall of the vagina, where the G-spot may be located.

There seems to be little doubt that there’s a hidden area, at least in some men and women, which, when stimulated, produces excitement; in women this is known as the G-spot, and in men it is the prostate gland.

While it’s undeniable that men have a prostate, scientists have for many years failed to find a G-spot, and the new claims remain disputed.

Some experts believe the G-spot exists only in some women, others believe that the front wall of the vagina is very sensitive, others believe that the whole idea is nonsense.

Self-discovery is the only way to find if the G-spot can give you intense pleasure for you or whether, as for some, it’s a waste of time.