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Why you can't win argument against some Kenyan women

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 A couple in an arguement

I recently attended a house party where, besides making merry, we had lots of conversations, particularly on trending topics. From the small matter of 'sponsors' to US elections, husbands and wives to scarcity of wife material, baby mamas to baby daddies, sports to corruption and what not.

But when it came to one pet topic that is 'Kenyan men', the discussion turned so chaotic, it should be used as a perfect case study on why you can't win an argument against a Kenyan woman. At the end, I left with my tail firmly tucked between my legs, feeling vilified and almost dying of guilt for being a Kenyan man.

As is my custom in public, I limited my opinions and did a lot of listening. And when I opened my mouth, I closely monitored my speech, lest I spoke my mind, ruffled feathers and got labelled sexist. Or got insulted like one verbally combative and politically incorrect guy who was told to go peck a crocodile or hug a transformer! See? Now that would have bruised my fragile ego.

From that experience, I realised there are certain types of women you can't have an objective argument with. Like one particular petite lady— chick was so skinny, I feared talking loudly around her, lest my breath blew her off her seat and got me sued for assault — who was overly subjective and grossly ignorant, with almost all her statements reeking feminist bravado.

First, when reasoning with such types, logic is, sadly, always thrown out of the window. For instance, any man who says something to insinuate he is too strict with his money is always labelled stingy. To such types of women, any pro-men argument advanced is always perceived as an anti-women campaign of sorts, which is never the case at the time. Also, a man who doesn't pander to their standards or expectations of a 'nice guy' or speaks his mind gets branded a chauvinist.

Basically, they hit you where it hurts because they know, to some of us sensitive types, being called as such before people leaves a huge dent to our reputation. Something  akin to that of being called a tribalist on the political scene. While capitalising on your insecurities, some will try to embarrass, demonise, get personal or just lower your esteem by insulting you, just to shut down debate. How does, for instance, telling a man he is ugly help advance your argument?

This is common when you can't stop unleashing zingers and asking tough questions. They always do this to perhaps elicit some sympathy for their lot. I noticed one of the very vocal guys get shouted down and told he fears strong, smart women and that he urgently needs anger management classes! I couldn't help but laugh. I, however, stopped for a second and wondered, isn't anger a legitimate emotion? So what's so special or unique about men that makes them immune so as not to express it, even in the face of a real injustice and pain?

Also, there was this guy who complained about 'gold diggers', you don't want to know how he was verbally roughed up. They rounded on up and subjected him to verbal mob injustice, telling him he is stingy and lacks respect for women. He was lashed at and told to suck it up as a man, grow up and called him irresponsible for, of course, refusing to be used!

It got me wondering, why do women get away with bigotry against men? Meanwhile, its good to have debates on battle of the sexes, with both genders objectively reasoning together. But must women always get personal, throw around cheap shots and recycle that old narrative of blaming men for all their woes, claiming they have locked their potential and whatnot?

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