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What to do when she forces herself into your family

Relationships
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Your grandfather died last week. He was a widely respected national figure. You come from a big and successful family and his funeral would have easily been taken care of by a set of rich grandchildren, but like all Kenyans, you organise an unnecessary fundraising at a five star restaurant, right in the middle of the city.

You only mentioned his death to Carol and you did not see the need of involving her.

The turn-up is excellent. There are all your relatives, some who have flown from abroad, a number of politicians and senior government officials. People give money in thousands. Your quick mental calculations indicate on average people give at least Sh5,000.

Those senior, give anything between Sh10,000 to 50,000. The chief guest, who is a senior national politician gives Sh100,000. Your grandfather was a great family friends with his family and they must have traded favours in the past that bound the two families.

Everything is going on fine. You raise over Sh10 million. And then Carol walks in late and the nosy, talkative master of ceremonies shouts at her and she has to go to the front. She introduces herself as a family friend, more specifically tied to you, which attracts knowing looks, and suppressed laughter.

She gives her personal contribution of Sh50,000 and says her friends in office helped her raise another Sh50,000. Essentially she outshines the chief guest, which is very embarrassing. People give you that look of “dude, you marrying into a very rich a mama”, but you play it cool.

“Why didn’t you invite me to the fundraising?” she asks you on the way home. You really don’t have any specific answer, but to fill the void.

“I thought it would be unnecessary, since, eh, look, quite frankly, we raised over 10 milli, gramps was a big deal, you know...” you offer feebly.

“Still, or you don’t want me to meet your family, just yet?” she asks. You can smell some reverse psychology.

“You know I met your sister Julia, she seems like a good person, she wants us to hang out when we go to the funeral...”

As in, Carol has invited herself to the funeral too. And quite obviously, she would like to meet everyone in your family who may be interested in you marrying. She wants to narrow expectations of your need to marry, as soon as possible. You really can’t stop this, unless, you became a beast of sorts.

See, when you are bachelor, way into your 30s, any woman who looks like marriage material will be treated preciously by your family so as not to offend you or her, upsetting you to postpone the niggling marriage thing. And just like that, Carol will be treated like a celebrity. You can picture her employing calculated generosity into buying influence like a politician after votes.

This is what it has come to. Carol now wants to marry you by force and you are now under siege. You really feel that this funeral will be the make or breaking point for your relationship.

How will she handle your shags?

@nyanchwani

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