When have been hurt in a previous relationship when heading for a new one we usually tread with much caution. “That’s a two-edged sword,” says relationship coach Amy Schoen. Being wiser is good for you as it can help you avoid the same mistakes the next time “It can also keep you so hyper alert to possible problems that you don’t give yourself to a relationship,” Schoen says. Here are some tips to help you move on:
Settle the past
OK. Something bad happened. You are not a victim. You can and will move on.
Realize you can make a choice
Yes, it did not work out the first time you can make a good choice and have a good relationship again.
Learn to spot any early warning signs
Learn the early warning signs that someone lacks integrity and construct proper boundaries to keep people like that far from your heart.
Stay clear of sex
Give yourself time to get to know someone before jumping in bed. Get to know the person better before any intimate act as sex can at times be a deal breaker.
Pay attention to their overall character
How is the person are the calm type or are they full of drama
Listen to your gut feelings
You have a built-in radar that alerts you when something is up. So, listen to and honor your intuition.
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