Emotionally unavailable, arrogant, self centered, full of it, egotistical...these are just some of the words used to describe them yet girls still fall for them, writes Shirley Genga.
Bad boys come in all types. He can be the guy with a long list of girlfriends or the sociopath who is always getting into trouble. Malik Wright -The Game
He is the emotionally unavailable and arrogant dude who always puts himself first or the guy in a committed relationship who still has many girls on the side.
The bad boy is the type of guy your mom warned you about and your father canât stand.
The phenomenon is nothing new. In the early 1990s, the matatu culture and touts with their donât-care attitude were blamed for leading school girls astray and today, âswaggerâ â that elusive attraction factor â has been blamed when seemingly good girls fall head over heels for a guy of dubious character.
When R&B singer Nivea and Actress Lauren London simultaneously got pregnant with Lilâ Wayneâs babies, we were left scratching our heads. Whatâs more he boasted about it in a rap song.
In popular culture (movies, music and literature), bad boys are usually applauded. What we donât realise is, in the movies, the bad guy is actually a good guy deep within. He stands up for his woman and in the end wins her admiration and they ride off to the sunset. The end. This is rarely how it happens in real life.
Janet, 27, a doctor, fell for a bad boy as a student in medical school.
"He came from a well-to-do family and was very good looking and confident. He changed women like inner wear. He started noticing me in second year.
I was a good girl who was very involved with church and would never associate myself with a guy like him, but he was persistent. My friends tried to warn me about him, but it fell on deaf ears.
For the next four months that our relationship lasted, I thought I was in love because he was very exciting.
