I am a 32-year-old man and I have been married for the last nine years. My wife is the perfect woman that any man would want. She looks good, cooks well and knows how to take care of the home. However, the problem is in the bedroom. She is just never in the mood for sex. I feel this is a big threat to our marriage. I have talked to her several times in vain. One day, I suggested to her to allow me to marry another wife but she would not hear of it. I am still a young man and I feel that this is too much for me. What do I do?
There is no cause for concern since this declining female libido can actually be scientifically explained. To keep her interested, you should find ways to make sex enjoyable.
Considering that your wife performs all her other household duties to your satisfaction which probably exhausts her, it would not be wise for you to spend too much time looking for another wife just because your current wife has denied you sex.
Train her to understand your sexual expectations. Remember a bird in hand is worth two in the bush.
Sex is not about the ‘thing’ rather it is an activity of the brain. Try and prepare her well to get her mind tuned to sex and the rest will follow. If this fails, visit a sexologist together.
Marriage and sex go hand in hand, so issues such as depression, anxiety, past experience or psychological trauma are some of the causes. Encourage her to open up to you on why she is never in the mood.
She may be hiding something from you. Try to talk to her once more and tell her to set her priorities right in marriage. If this fails again, find yourself another wife who is all rounded.