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A blissful honeymoon

Relationships
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It was Carol’s idea that you have your honeymoon in Kenya. Diani was her suggestion. That was surprising, given her penchant for extravagance. Maybe she understood your financial exhaustion. Anyway, you are thankful altogether.

Diani in September is warm and balmy, just the perfect honeymoon weather.

Carol has never been this happy. Whatever troubles she had at first, she seems to have buried them somewhere and is now relishing every moment of the honeymoon.

You, on the other hand, seem immersed in buyer’s remorse.

The deal you got is a good one, from a family portrait point of view, but there is a nudging sense of regret that you moved a bit fast.

Could you have got a better deal? You ask yourself. But you don’t have an answer. You wonder if newly married men do have this kind of agony during the first days of marriage.

“Are you happy that we finally tied the knot?” you ask her, guardedly.

“Why ask?” she asks, sensing your whiff of regret.

“I am just asking. You look happy. I just want to be sure?” You press on.

“I love you. I am happy,” she declares.

This is actually the first time she has said the words “I love you”. Carol, is one of those proud women who always choose their words carefully.

She also likes being in charge, or being seen to be in control. Actually, in your relationship, she has played the difficult one, but with hindsight, you can see she has been the one silently in charge.

Her daughter, beautiful girl, seems to be the only thing that was affecting her confidence. But once she mends her differences with her, you assume, she will make a great wife.

A honeymoon gives you a chance to fantasize about the life you want. Good enough, both of you have dispensed with academic stuff, and you are doing your Masters and no one is interested in PhDs. Career-wise, both of you are where you like.

And it can only get better.

Apropos children, Carol wants one more, but you want two. You hope to have your way.

Your grandmother once told you women hate pregnancies and deliveries, but they keep coming back for more, for some innocuous reason. When you tell Carol this, she has a ready answer:

“Your grandma is full of it. That is her idea. One kid it is for me.”

There is a finality to that. But still.

There are other big decisions. Building a home. Furnishing that home and wondering which schools kids will attend and such.

Of course, Carol, like all women has extremely high and ridiculous dreams but reality will punch her in the face and bring her back to her senses.

Not to spoil the honeymoon, bliss, you agree with everything she says.

Once back to the humdrum of city life, all her dreams will be adjusted accordingly. But in the meantime, let her swim in her marital nirvana.

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