My ex is trying to split us up but she's the mother of my child

My ex is trying to split us up but she's the mother of my child

I’ve been trying to make a new life with the woman I love for many years, but we keep breaking up because of my ex

Dear Coleen

I have a problem with my ex, who is the mother of my daughter.

She’s been trying to ruin my life since I got custody of our little girl.

I’ve been trying to make a new life with the woman I love for many years, but we keep breaking up because of my ex.

She even made false allegations to social services about my girlfriend.

My girlfriend is a teacher and has worked her whole life to get to the point she’s at now and is afraid my ex is going to ruin things for her.

My ex won’t listen to reason and doesn’t care who she hurts to ruin my life. Any suggestions?

Coleen says

If you and your girlfriend love each other and want to be together then stand strong as a unit because breaking up is exactly what your ex wants.

And if there’s any hint of trouble between you, she’s going to feed off it and carry on.

You have to make it very clear that whatever she does won’t make an impact.

Tell her she can throw anything at you, but you’re with your girlfriend now and that’s how it’s going to stay.

And if it’s getting to the point of harassment, then get legal advice.

The law was on your side to start with and there must have been good reasons why you were granted custody.

Be careful not to row with your girlfriend in front of your daughter – for your daughter’s sake but, also because you don’t want her to be telling her mum what’s going on at home and give her any ammunition.