Confessions: I have been a good wife but this man is too much

I married my husband in 2011 and at the time , he did not have a job. Since then, I have tried to support him to venture into business by giving him money, it always goes down the drain.

I have tried different ways of helping him including buying stock for him but after a while, he runs down the business and becomes jobless again. I don’t know how to help him get back on his feet now since I have lost so much money trying to help him.

I love him and just like any other woman, I would like to have a man who is financially stable and who also supports me. please advise me on how i can help him before i give up on him

You found this man jobless and he is not interested in changing this status. I would want to know between the two of you who comes up with the business ideas. Business cannot boom and succeed just because there is capital. It takes more than that to run a successful business. If it is always his idea to start the business then he owes you an explanation as to why he can’t maintain the business.

{Lillian Mwihaki}

If you love him and your only worry is his status, then make him relevant to the labour market so he can secure a job since he has proved he cannot run a business. You also have the option of letting him stay in the house as you provide everything the same way he would if you were unemployed and he had a means to raise income.{Tasma Charles}

You have spoilt your own man Betty and the fact that you are willing to give him more money every time he squanders it, makes him do it even more. This man could be an opportunist who wants to live off a woman. Stop seeing love and start being sensible. Ordinarily, men are the ones to provide for their families.

{Peter Oyaro, Shanzu}

Betty, some men are generally lazy and only fancy waking up late and idling around all day. If you are married to such a man, then think twice about your love for him. A man must manoeuvre and find a way to support his family. He should not be allowed to sit around and eat free things while you are busy working hard out there. However, if your love supersedes his laziness, then take care of him!

{Ouma Ragumo – Sifuyo}