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It’s a bad gal’s world;selfish,mean and tough

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Flirty girl

I am vain. I constantly put myself first and I will admit I do love myself a lot. Yes, I am very selfish!

The choice was quite simple, I could either be “the good girl”; a pushover, a doormat and someone’s personal free cheering squad. Or I could simply be selfish and happy. It was not really that hard of a decision to make.

And for some reason when a woman makes that kind of a declaration, it makes people very uncomfortable.

Or you get the how-could-you-say-that-out-loud look, because we women are supposed to be selfless, to constantly sacrifice for everyone around us and to put all our dreams, opinions and needs in the back burner, lest they offend someone.

This while men are told to do what they damn well please and to go after every dream and desire, and never care whose toes they step on as long as they are happy. We are taught to be selfless: always think of others first; pour a bucket of water on your burning desires or needs and dreams. Well, bugger that.

After all, who else is going to have your best interests at heart? Most women think being selfish is bad. I bet you do, too. I used to think so too but I have quickly come to learn that the best thing a woman can do for herself is to be very selfish. In fact I think of selfishness as a parallel form of selflessness.

Impossible ideologies

Take babies for example. They are very selfish but also very happy, and men are like babies, “I want this now”, “I do not like this and I do not care if you like it”, “Give me that now”.

Just watch men and how they go about their everyday life and you will quickly realize that women have been handicapped by impossible ideologies of selflessness.

Men seem to have it all with being selfish and self-indulgent, they know what they want and are not afraid to voice their opinions no matter how ridiculous.

Take the workplace for example and we women are too docile, nice and accommodating.

Look at Parliament for instance, and the silence from the women reps’ end is palpable.

I still cry over my vote, it’s almost as if they went to Parliament to ensure they are neither heard nor seen; just working hard to be “good girls”.

Even in marriage or relationships, women are the ones who sacrifice everything.

Yet there is no gold medal at the end of the tunnel for a woman who buries her dreams so that her husband can shine. There is no gold-filled purse, special happiness or reward for a woman who chooses to stay with a man who cheats on her or who disrespects her.

So while ‘good girls’ struggle to fit into society’s mode of the ‘angelic long-suffering woman’, in the end they get nothing but years of regret for opportunities lost and opinions not voiced.

And guess who rules the world, holds all the top positions, and are living their dreams? Bad girls.

Tough, arrogant

Yes, bad girls who are selfish, and at times described as tough and arrogant. Girls who are self-indulgent, narcissistic, break all the rules and do what they damn well please. They never apologise for going after what they want, always put their needs first, and are quick to put anyone who purports to stand in their way in his/ her place.

Basically, they act like men!

 

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