I have discovered that my dad is having several affairs behind my mum’s back and this is making me so sick of him. I’m not yet 18, but this is really getting to me and I feel that he is betraying my mother. My mother and younger sister travelled recently and since then he has just been on the loose. I have read some disturbing text messages on his phone and found pornographic stuff on his laptop. I know he loves mum, but I don’t know what to do about this situation. I think mum would be devastated if she got to know about this, while on the other side I think it is unfair to keep this from her. Please help me out of this mess.
{Jesse}
Going through your dad’s private messages and laptop is disrespectful and you may have to change your attitude about him before you talk to him. However, note that there are some things you cannot dare ask your dad in our African culture, but you can ask an auntie or uncle to talk to him about this nagging issue.
{Ogara George}
You are justified to feel bad about this situation because it may have grave consequences on many people. However, remember that the deal is between him and your mother. Your interventions may only worsen the matter. You can only make mini mum interventions like speaking to your dad and register your disapproval of his actions. Pray for God’s intervention for He has the power to change him because there could be some things going on between them, which you may not understand.
{Pastor Allan Kiombe}
He is immoral and he should stop this behaviour with immediate effect! If you cannot talk to him face to face because of respect, you may talk to one of his close friends. Your mum should not know about this because it will affect their relationship and the family at large.
{Wilberforce Adekhela}
Share your fears with your church pastor and let him intervene on your behalf. You can also drop your mum some hints and let her pick it up from there if you think she is emotionally strong. Otherwise the pastor remains your best option.
{Tasma Charles}
