I have been married for nine years and everything is okay between us except that we only seem to fight about money. I earn very little, which is usually barely enough to cover my transport, lunch, airtime and other basic needs. I always have to ask him for money for salon, clothes and other needs, but he does not give me money. My clothes are worn out and I always have to settle for cheap hairstyles because he does not give me the money to get stylish. There is this man from our estate who has shown interest in having me as his girlfriend. He is rich and he is known to be very generous. On one hand I love my husband and don’t want to cheat on him, but on the other I’m tired of living a cheap life. I want to feel and look beautiful like the other women, but he denies me all these. I’m tired of always settling for cheap things and want to be appreciated.
Nancy, be contented with the little things you have. The cost of adultery is more expensive than you think as your integrity as a woman is trampled on like a door mat. Your love for your husband will be compromised and can lead to break up. Don’t compare yourself with other women. Appreciate the little there is with your family and embrace and cherish what God gave you.
Choosing to cheat on your husband is not the best option to fast track your current pressing needs. By going that route, you will be risking many things including HIV, which will impact your life and that of your spouse negatively.
It is immoral to befriend a man just because of his riches. This man will only use you then move to the next woman and leave you feeling like a prostitute. Your dignity and respect as a mother and a wife is more important than the material gains you will get from that man. If your husband discovered about your affair, he will definitely divorce you and I don’t think that man will marry you.
Your husband and any other man will not give you money if you also earn. You seem to be extravagant and that is why your husband can’t give you his money. Remember infidelity is a recognised ground for divorce. Remember also that people will never be equal and infidelity starts when people start looking outside to satisfy their needs.